Losing My Sister, Sheryl

by Suzanne
(Raleigh, NC)

Sheryl was 20 when she died. I was 21. Her death happened July 2, 1981. Her death is still very raw to me. She was murdered by a man on parole. He had already been in prison because he stalked a woman, poured gasoline into the mail slot in her apartment door and lit it on fire – she survived. In my sister’s case, he stalked her. She had no idea and they didn’t know each other. He posed as a telephone repairman to get into her apartment. His goal was to rape her, but he didn’t like her convulsions when he hit her on the head with a hammer. He decided to put her out of her “misery”, so he finished the job.
Has anyone out there experienced the murder of a sibling?

Thanks. Suzanne

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Sep 30, 2013
I lost my sister, too
by: Celimar

I lost my sister, too, though she wasn't murdered. She died from Celiac Disease. I'm still heartbroken. It wasn't supposed to happen. She died 3/17/2009. I guess you never recover from that, I never have. I have learned to live without her, but I still dream about her, I still cry about her at random occasions. It just happens, I sit and cry... like now. I'm sorry for your loss.

Oct 16, 2012
by: Suzanne

Heather - No, I didn't find her. The guy called the police himself and waited outside of the apartment building to watch the police arrive. He then watched all of the activity. Such a sick man!

Oct 15, 2012
by: Suzanne

How horrible for you! Did you find her?

Oct 15, 2012
To Doreen and anonymous
by: Suzanne

To both Doreen and anonymous,

Sudden death is so tragic. You never expect one of your siblings to die. You take them for granted. You shared a bedroom. You walked to school together. You did so much together! Even after 31 years, I still miss what we could have had. I have had so many people tell me to move on at times, but there are some things that make it very raw. I am working through things right now with some extra outside help. I just that it hadn't taken me so long!

Take care. Suzanne

Oct 14, 2012
Losing My Sister, Sheryl
by: Doreen U.K.

Suzanne I am so sorry for your loss of your Sister Sheryl to a tragic death. All those years gone and you will never forget what happened. What is most painful is the type of death and how your loved one suffered at the hands of a very cruel and evil man who was on the rampage to kill. We see it in the Films all the time and it is so horrific. But to hear it from someone in the real world and not a movie is so much more upsetting. Feeling every moment of what Sheryl went through and how frightened she would have been at that moment perhaps crying out for HELP and none came. This is what hurts. To know how someone suffered and we could do nothing to help them.
My husband died a slow death from cancer over 3yrs. and I hurt for the pain I had to live with. But even though my grief is so raw and painfull and I hurt so much. I always hear of a more tragic death that tears me to pieces. I cannot understand the brutal nature of some crimes (homicides). How a person can have no feeling about what he is doing to another individual. How brutal a killing and no REMORSE. He goes out and does it again. I am so very sorry for your loss that you will never ever get over. It is too horrific a death to ever be forgotton. Your mind would not let you forget. This is a scar forever. May God Comfort Your whole family from this tragedy and give you Peace over time.

Oct 13, 2012
Dear Suzanne
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry for your loss of your sister. It happened a long time ago and I can still feel the hurt you carry with you.

I lost my brother 8yrs ago from a heart attach. He went to the emergency room twice and they told him he had indigestion. The third time they saw him at the ER he was dead from a heat attack.

Also, my beautiful daugher Heather, 29yrs old was murdered and left out in the Texas heat for 11 days. We found her body and there was only 36lbs. of her.It is the most life changing event and I will never be the same person without her.

I hope you can find some peace, but I know it is very difficult.

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