Losing Two Siblings in Four Months

That past February I lost my beloved older sister. I was very much her "little brother", a pest growing up I'm sure, but she still doted on me and was an influential figure in my life. For some time our divergent ideologies drove us apart, but in the past few years we enjoyed a reunion and she meant the world to me. I was basking in the glow of our renewed relationship when she passed away. She pretty much "chose" to die, to follow her recently deceased husband by refusing the medical care she needed. None of us can make another person want to live, I had to realize this and let her go.

Just 3 !/2 months later my older brother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died within six weeks. The last time I'd seen him was at the funeral of our sister.

What a difficult year this has been, so much sorrow and readjustment. Our siblings belong to OUR generation, they are not our parents who we expect to pass on before we do. In many cases they were our friends, our contemporaries, and with them we had a special bond that is devastating to lose. Honor the memories, hold them dear, and be grateful for what we shared.

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Oct 09, 2013
Losing Two Siblings in Four months
by: Doreen UK

I am sorry for your loss of 2 siblings in just a few short months. It is one of the saddest and painful experiences when you lose someone from your own family who you grew up with and forged a bond. You also forged memories together whether they be good or bad. Childhood quarrelling and naughtiness is part of life and growing up. Over time when one matures the relationship changes and becomes better. Before one knows it our loved one has gone. All too quickly one's life is thrown into turmoil where you spend the next few months or even years mourning this loss. We are then left with a VOID in our life. The pain of losing a loved one is felt for a long time. Healing is such a slow process. I lost my husband of 44yrs. to cancer 17 months ago. It was the worst loss of my life. He died just before retirement. A man works all his life and looks forward to "His Time" and then it is cut short. This happens more now in life. Which is why it is so good to establish good relationships because we never know when one will be taken from us. I have 5 siblings and this is always a worry that I will lose one of them. I wish you comfort in your healing from your loss of 2 siblings.

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