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Loss From Multiple Deaths
Grieving Multiple Losses


 

 
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Loss from multiple deaths...

Welcome to the "Multiple Losses" page. This is a special place for those who have lost more than one loved one in a relatively short period of time. You have an unusually heavy burden to carry, trying to overcome grief caused by multiple losses. You may also feel a special kind of anger and frustration with the "unfairness" of it all. It is unfair, and our heart goes out to you.

You may feel overwhelmed, not know how to even start dealing with your bereavements. Our advice to you is don't even try. Don't "deal with it". Just endure it and get by one day at a time. We know that in time, you will overcome this tragedy and come back to life without your loved ones.

May you begin to heal by telling others about the loss of your loved ones, and also find some comfort in similar stories posted by other folks grieving multiple losses.

Ready to tell your story?  It's very easy, and there is no cost. Just click in and start writing below:

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They are all gone  I lost my mom a little over 7 years ago in a vehicle accident involving a deer, she was killed instantly. She was my best friend, my confidant, my hero,...

Loss of my mom and brother  I lost my mom to lung cancer recently. She passed laying in bed next to me. I had taken her through chemo and knew it would happen but did not know how ...

My family 
Im only 15 and ive been through a lot. When i was two my uncle passed away. ya i was two so i didnt know much about him. When i was 5 my uncle died ...

Feeling Lost  Right now, in this moment, as we watch my mother-in-law painfully surrender to pancreatic cancer, my story is too sad to get into. So I will just say this;...

In my life - Loss of Parents, Brother, all grandparents, two ectopics, and a loss of a child meant to be   I am hoping I can post my story here, although it is not all in a short time, it is weighing heavy on me now as I have been chosen for the special duty ...

I lost my identical twin boys at 29 weeks.  On Monday November 28th 2011 I had a normal day planned out along with a regular prenatal check-up that afternoon. While I was at my prenatal appointment ...

Debs Story,   I don't know how to tell my story. I lost my Dad and my husband on the same day. I didn't know my husband was gone until a week later. I was in a different ...

A Long Road  My story with grief began long ago, and isn't yet complete. After losing 6 (very close) relatives over a course of eight years you can see how it has been ...

Mom and Terry  Monday, August 8, 2011, started out as any normal day would. I woke up to my alarm, got up, took a shower, my fiancée got my two daughters ready, and ...

MOM and DAD murdered  I was sick that sunday afternoon, and my mom wanted to buy me my favorite burger at red ribbon. She told me she will be back and kissed me goodbye while ...

2 suicides, 2 attempted suicides and 5 more deaths in 8 months.  7 dead, 2 were suicides both found hanging from a tree, one day after another. It started with a gamer friend in Feb., then an Aunt I did not know well....

Just Mom & Me.  From a family of 5 down to 2 in a matter of 8 years. I lost my middle brother Eric in 2003 to a drug overdose. In June 2011 I lost my brother Chris to ...

From July 2010-April 2 2011  Im not sure where to start....In July I lost my sister~in~law, she was one of my best friends, She lived in another state so we didn't get to see her much ...

4 losses in 2 years and I have moved from anger to indifference...  My loss and grief started just over 2 years ago when my oldest brother passed away from a brain aneurysm at the age of 41. A year after that my step-brother ...

Dreams  I have lost so many these last few years it just, i guess that is how i sum it up "it just". I have had recurring dreams over and over that my love ones ...

There are only 4 of us left out of 9   I am just expriencing a loss again my brother William who I was very close to , I lve in pa and he lived in Elkhart Indiana nd was a truck driver ,,,he ...

3 gone in six days how do we ever get over this?  This is my story. in november of 2009 my brother became ill the hospital said he had a blockage they would do surgery the next day. during surgery his ...

I am starting to remember things I had forgotten the year my husband & Mom died.  My husband died March 23. 4 months later my Mom died. I was devastated by the loss of my husband. We were financially almost bk & facing foreclosure when ...

A Family Broken  When I was 20 years old my younger brother died of Leukemia at age
15. Two years later my Aunt, Uncle and cousin (also age 15) died
in a terrible motor ...

Need to vent....  I need to vent, I think I'm going crazy or at least have some sort of dissociative disorder.
I'm in my forty's. In a two year (starting four years ago)...

A line 5 a row Ashes stowed  I finally went to the graves. It was a year july 7 since my Mom passed. I stood there looking down then side to side there they were my family. Mom, Dad,...

reins of grief  emotions rise and grief and sadness take the reins. I realize my life will never be the same. it is as the universe is sucking me into a black hole. i ...

Just When I Thought That Things Couldn't Get Any Worse!!!!  On January 16, 2011 I lost my eldest child to an unknown illness. I never thought that this was possible! I truly believed that with time, any and ...

Just Me  It first started with the loss of my Dad. Two years latter my sister - in -law passed on the same day, October 22nd . We buried her ...

Such is the tragedy of life  When I was 3, I lost my mother, she either killed herself or her boyfriend killed them, or it was just a drunk accident. I'll never know. It was her birthday ...

So much loss in such a short time  I'm trying to figure out how do deal with so much loss, my head cannot even begin to wrap around any of it. First April 15th 2011 I'm out of town with ...

Three Family Member Lives Taken to Heaven Within A Year  My ex, Troy Davis, is the father to my everything, Kylie Davis. We separated from each other when Kylie was a year old. Since then there were custody ...

Six funerals in four months  I am no stranger to grief... it started with my best friend in junior high killing himself, then losing my father at seventeen. Since the age of fourteen ...

Sounds Like a Sad Country Western Song  My first experience with real loss was that of a 50 year old friend who battled brain CA for 4 years. I visited regularly in her last 6 months, mostly ...

Life will never be the same...  Over 2 years - 4 deaths, mom diagnosed with kidney disease, a failed relationship, loss of job, loss of drivers license

In August 2008 my Grandfather ...

my big lossess  I CANNOT CONCENTERATE AT ALL.....
CANNOT STOP CRYING......
I FEELS LIKE BURNING INSIDE......
I DONT HAVE TODAY.....
I ALWAYS LIVE IN YESTERDAYS........
HELPPPPPPPPP
...

LOST THEM ALL OR WAS THAT JUST A DREAM  I had two healthy beautiful babies just 14 months apart. Both played on baseball, basketball, vollyball and swimming teams. But that all ended when they ...

Two deaths in two years  Hi, my name is Kathy. On April 17, 2009, I lost my 66 yr old mother to colon cancer after a very harrowing 7 year battle. While trying to deal with the ...

Living a nightmare  I'm so lost right now I dont know what to do anymore. It feels like I'm living in hell each day I wake up. Within the past 10 months I've lost both grandparents,...

what is the face of grief  I have been moving along this road they call life. It has been a Year since I lost my son to cancer or a by product of it host vs graf. He was 36 and ...

3 losses in 4 months  My 65 yr. old "healthy" dad started having some back pain last summer. He was diagnosed with liver cancer with bone metastasis in August 2010. He died ...

Our twins and Momma   Christmas time this year, there was no tree or presents neatly wrapped underneath it.

Instead of celebrating our Saviors birth, we were grieving the ...

Triple Loss  On May 28, 2009 I lost my 23 yr old son, 20 yr old daughter-in-law and 1 yr old grandson in a car accident 3 miles from home. My son lost control of the ...

MY BEST FRIENDS  On June 30, 2010 our mom passed away. She was very Ill and the hurt is more today than it was then. I am the baby girl of six kids, she was the only parent ...

back and forth   Back and forth, teeter totter, up and down, round and round. I am sick and tired of crying i am sick and tired of hurting. has it gotten any better, have ...

When did this begin, where will it end???  I wish , and I have tried to give more description herein to the losses that began for me in 2005. My love, Tony, who I had shared 13 years with, great ...

MICHAEL  In June 2006, my eighty yr old father went into his closet and shot himself in the chest. He died on the spot.

In June 2007, my 50 yr old husband of ...

Too much to bear  I'm 58 yrs old, My father who I wasn't really close to died at 69 from aorta. Six weeks later my 46 year old sister died from blood disease thrombocytopenia....

7 people in 2 months  In late September my two best friends from childhood died from alcoholism, they were 30. I received the news of one on Monday and the next on Wednesday....

family  I am only 18 years old and I've lost too many people to count. My grandfather shot himself when I was 1, my freshman year of high school I lost my uncle ...

Broken  I'm hoping this might be a place where I can get the hugs I've yet to find during the past 3yrs.
Sept 2007 my 17yr cat, Mikhail, passed away. I adopted ...

Love does not end with dying  Click on each picture to enlarge

I want to tell you about the most precious treasure that was stolen from me. I didn't lose it... IT WAS STOLEN!

My ...

The Holt Family so wonderfull yet so cursed with grief  I am a Holt By Marriage And Proud to be part of such A Loving and wonderful family...What they have had to endure I am not allowed to write here though ...

My Hubbys Brother Larry Holt 10-11-10  My Brother-in-law Larry Holt Had a heart attack early in the morning just getting ready for work. He was a working man like the rest of his family his ...

It all started in   I was born on september 21st 1991. my first memory that i can remember is my mother in a headlock while my father was repeatedly punching her in the face....

Too many   I wrote about my sister and the first lost, grief, depression and questions of why. Well after a couple years my brother was operated on and given months ...

how do you cope  You don't expect it and when it happens it knocks you for a loop. Back in 2003 my sister and I worked in the same building and I would see her everyday ...

Heavy Burden  My burden is heavy. I've had 5 losses in the last 18 months. All 5 are so very different. First, in Feb 2009 I lost my friend, Tracey. She was 37 years ...

When does it stop?  May 5th 2009. Got up early to take my teenage son to the Dr. After a couple hours we returned to find my wife of 27 yrs. on the front room floor behind ...

When is enough enough and why does the world keep turning??  On Feb. 21st I lost my step mom of 28 yrs, beautiful soul to breast and liver cancer. Then June 15th 2010 I lost my best friend Fred of 20+ yrs to Lymphoma....

Lost my grandchild, brother and step daughter  About 18 months ago my daughter went in premature labor, 6 1/2 months along. She is in a wheelchair and has high blood pressure, shunts in her head and ...

For My Uncles.. Johnny, Steve and My Grandparents Howard and Velma  When you lose someone it a shock to your body. You can't believe what someone is telling you. You feel like you are in a nightmare. You will wake up and ...

Danny, The Love of My Life  I met Danny through a good friend, I worked with. We hit it off. Seems like we had alot in common. We both liked to hike, fish, hunt, and that's what we ...

Losing my grandpa, my dad, and my step-grandpa in less than a month  Just recently my world was turned upside down. On April 20, 2010 I received a phone call @ work from my brother telling me that my grandpa had a heart ...

My grandma, sister & brother  On September 6, 2008 my grandma passed away after a broken hip could not be repaired, due to her heart health. We took her home with the help of hospice,...

Grandpa and Great Aunt Lost in 2010!  Well I have been wondering where things were going, Valentines day was a great day, with my grandpa who was in the Hospital. Three days later I got a ...

Did I kill you?  My dad shot himself in the head in 2000. Sometimes people joke about blowing their head off. Instead of laughing I freeze, picturing my father's head all ...

Losing my Gandfather, Mum and Dad with 3 months of eachother  My Grandfather died on the 17th of January, 2009; not the greatest start to the year. We knew the year was only going to get worse. On the 1st of December ...

How Many Times?  As I begin writing this, I cannot help but say that life can be so unfair. My story begins at the mere age of 7, which is when I witnessed a robber kick ...

My loss on Good Friday  There was not really a category where I could put my loss, so I chose multiple losses. On April 10, 2009, an F-4 tornado passed through Tennessee ...my ...

Everythings gone.......  I am a sixteen year old girl that in the last five years I have gone from being a happy fun loving girl.... to a girl that can't have a conversation with ...

Multiple Losses?  Between my husband and me we have lost 20 immediate family members from September 2005 to January 2010. Eight of those deaths occurred within a six (6)...

My Momma and my precious Aunt Robin   My life has been turned upside down and I am trying so hard to get myself back to some sort of happiness. My mom passed away Feb 22, 09 due to a fall ...

They're all gone now...and I am alone with the pain.  Mom, 1996 - I miss you to this day. You were 73, not really old. You died of a horrible disease that no one really ever figured out, or really cared ...

Lost mom and dad within 4 days of each other  Today is 11/07/2009. my mom died on 10/22/09 and my dad on 10/26/09. they both had cancer. my mom had been a smoker and a drinker, my father had been ...

Tears  My mom died February 10, 2009 she was just about to turn 75 on march 25th. She had pancreatic cancer, diagnosed just b4 x-mas 2008. She had been complaining ...

Trying to say my Goodbyes  I am fairly young. I grew up really young for the reason I always took care of people. I had 3 people that were really close to me die within a year and ...

Will trust this is the right thing to do....  I am very leery of putting this all down in writing. It's like this grief I carry is a giant wave, over my head and if I really let it all out the wave ...

The Long Goodbye...  My father was a heroic man who remained cheerful right up until the end of his life. I took care of him after my mother and his wife of 50 years died suddenly ...

A Teenager Living With Grief   When someone dies, people don't always think about the teenagers or the children that are involved. They forget that the death hurts as much for a child ...

Nell my Sheltie , Ron my Brother  Will I ever stop crying? It has been 4 months today that Nell was diagnosed with advanced lymphoma and enlarged spleen. Then, the last of my human family,...

MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY  IT FEELS LIKE ALL MY FAMILY AND MY FRIENDS ARE DYING ON ME AND WHEN I AM NOT THERE THO. I LOVE THEM SO MUCH, AND I MISS MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS. IT HURTS ...

"TOO MUCH FOR ONE PERSON TO BEAR"  IT ALL STARTED 3 YEARS AGO, FEBUARY 9,2006 @ 9:00AM. I GOT A THAT PHONE CALL, MY MOTHER TELLING ME THAT THAT MY SISTER WENDY WAS NOT BREATHING. SO I CALLED ...

My little dog Nell then my brother Ron  Nov. 08 '08 I took Nell to the vet, only to find out she had Advanced Lymphoma and enlarged spleen. Then Feb. 9 '09 my brother died. I can't put into ...

Heather's Hope  Once upon a time I had 3 beautiful children that I raised myself without a husband (due to a nasty divorce) . . . . . . . .
I remained single 25 years,...

Lost 3 Grandparents and I am only 15 years old.  I am devastated. Right now all I want to die is to end this pain.
Death seems to follow me and my family around and wont go away.
I lost my Grandad when ...

losing Mom and Sister 5 months after my Mom 
I lost my Mom on July 25,2010 and my Sister on Dec.26,2010. My Mom had just turn 78yrs.and my Sister was 55 yrs. It is so hard and i can't seem to let ...

Multiple Deaths in a very short time  My boyfriend of 3 years father past away suddenly. He went into the hospital for a puncture wound to his hand, and a week and a half later his organs started ...

I lost my brother and then had a miscarriage......  On the 25th of August 2011 I lost my 21 year old brother. He had just turned 21 on the 10/08/11 and had gone to a different town with his friends to celebrate....

My aunt, my uncle and my family  About a year ago, my aunt was shot and killed by her husband. My aunt was my mom's sister and live fairly close and since I was little I spent plenty of ...

feeling so lost  I have often wondered why I was always in a surreal state when I heard of a family member passing away. I felt so sad in the back of my mind, I just wanted ...

My loving girlfriend  My rock my shoulder to cry, my best friend is gone. i woke up to you cold not breathing . i try everyting i can do to save you. but i couldnt i couldnt ...

Managing multiple life changing events all at the same time.  My beloved weimaraner was completely consumed with cancerous tumors. I spent thousands of dollars on removing them. They just took over my dog. He passed ...

Father and nephew passing away suddenly  My father, age 96, passed away suddenly on a Sunday morning. Even though he was elderly it was still a shock. On the day of his funeral my oldest nephew ...

LOSS TO MOLESTERS FOR MANY YEARS !  i NEVER NEW WHY I HAD SO MUCH DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY THEN I WAS QUESTIONED BY MEMBERS OF A 12 STEP GROUP MEMBER IF Id ever been molested? the answer was ...

A long journey  Last year my dear sister Kay was diagnosed with lung and bone cancer. After a year she died a very painful but supported death. About four weeks later ...

tricia  im struggling to understand why so many people around me have died. On friday my friend Shane accidently overdosed. He was a beautiful talented musician ...

The same day  My mum and dad died on the same day at different hospitals, they did not get a chance to say goodbye. Dad was 88 years old and suffering from prostrate ...

Too many funerals  It all started when my nana died just before mothers day 2011, leaving me grandpa behind, i did my best to support my mum and her 8 other siblings and ...

Losing a Support System  When you're young - at least most of us - we don't expect to lose so many people before we are 40 years old, esp. in a short period of time. Most of us ...

Cheated  Oh March 2nd, 2011 my phone rang at 11pm. I knew it wasn't good because my mother would never call so late. My grandmother had died. I lived next door ...

Bereft and Healing  My dad died last December after a long illness. We had not been close in recent years, but I loved him deeply. He had a difficult path--emotional and mental ...

Who knew it could be this bad?  i miss them all my son and my only child my mom,dad,uncle,aunt,brother and sister. The one year point of my son is march 1st. The pain and suffering he ...

Sherill  I’m on my second deployment to Afghanistan. I got here in March 2009, and about three weeks into the deployment I found out that a very good friend from ...

Death is picking off people I care about  In the past year I have lost 5 friends. One of which I was in love with. She died at 17. The pain from her loss is the heaviest on me. She was so young,...

My life went upside down since I was 4 yrs. old.............  English is my 2nd language.
I was molested by my older cousins and the other boy's from 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, and 9 yrs. old through from a small town. We moved ...

2009 the year of "It's always something..."  This story actually began in '08. I have had Epilepsy since 1990, but have been able to work with the aid of medication. May of '08 I had a real whopper ...

My brother's family and the fire.  On January 1st of 2010, I was woken up by my older brother banging on my apartment door. As I opened the door, he stood on the step. He said, "John, Lisa,...

TOO MANY HEARTACHES  My Dad was such a wonderful man, he was always there for us. We were five children, two boys and three girls. In 1988 my Dad was diagnosed with lung ...

A lifetime of human suffering  My story was too long to put on here so I posted it in a blog called loss on my myspace page. Please feel free to read it. I have been through so many ...

Amy  These last 17 months have been the hardest time in my life. I lost my Dad in July of '08, my brother Gary in January of '09, my Mom October 21, 2009, and ...

FROM. ''I'LL ALWAYS LOVE YOU MOM"  JUST WANTED TO SAY THANK YOU FOR ALLOWING ME TO TALK TO SOMEONE BESIDES MY FAMILY, AND TO FEEL THAT WHAT IS HAPPENING RIGHT NOW, IS NORMAL TO SOME DEGREE....

Waiting for that summer breeze  I'm alot older now, but 12 years ago my oldest sister Tangee died of sickle cell anemia. When it had happened, my mom felt we were too young to tell us ...

True North  May 28, 2008, my sister Liddy passed away in Hospice in another city far from mine. No one told me. I didn't find out until I arrived in town the following ...

LOSING MY FAMILY  My little brother was always overweight, but when my dad called at 3:30am, I knew something was wrong. He said he thought my brother was dead. I jumped ...

My journey with grief  May 6th I buried my third husband......I lost my first husband after a two month battle with cancer...we were farmers and I was left with no income and ...

How Could I Have Lost Both of Them  Year 2008 was the hardest year of my life. I spent most of that year taking care of two wonderful men. My father and my husband.

My healthy 78 yr ...

A Life Ready to End, But a Young One Taken Too Soon  November 14, 2008 was a Friday. My Dad, 84 years old, had his second major heart attack. He would have turned 85 on November 30th. He was in ICU at ...

Partners Suicide, Favorite Aunt's Death, Step Dad's Death  In August of 2006 I found out that my Step Dad (who raised me) was diagnosed with Lung Cancer. My partner and I made plans to move to Kansas to help....

Triple Whammy  In October 2007 my husband had a triple bypass. His cardiologist had told us he wasn't suitable for surgery however he was moved to the "heart hospital"...

My parents are gone  My father passed away almost 6 years ago from AIDS and he gave it to my mother who passed away 5 years ago. The pain that is in my heart and always in ...



 



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