Loss of a young gay partner
I lost my partner of 5 1/2 years suddenly to a massive heart attack. He was only 33, and I am 38. We were the perfect couple, with a strong commitment to each other and our future together. He was intelligent beyond words, a gently and generous man who loved me with all his heart. He was my world, my soulmate, and someone I truly imagined I would live with for the rest of my life. It has now been 6 weeks since Doug died. I met his family only after he died and they have surprisingly been very supportive of me and understanding of my pain. Losing a gay spouse is very different, as the world somehow expects you to get over it and move on. There is not the same acknowledgement of loss from friends, family and co-workers.
My relationship with Doug was amazing, honest and built on mutual respect and love. I struggle to make sense of his loss, and don't really know where I should go from here. Being a gay male is very isolating, as I have no family around and just a few friends who I can call on very sparingly. I am looking for other young gay males who have suffered similar loss of a young spouse. There are very different dynamics at play when you lose a young spouse and are in a gay relationship. Hoping to connect with gay/straight people who can understand my struggles. Thanks for reading.