loss of husband

by Mari
(Fresno Ca)

I am on my 4th year without my husband. I am doing better and I stay busy with work and church. Sometimes I feel sad when I look at his picture.I wish he had lived long enough to see the great grand baby who is now 2 years old.
My husband loved the grandchildren and they sure loved him. He was a good husband and grand parent and a hard working man.He died of a heart condition.
I think of the great joy he felt when 3 grandchildren were born in Feb of 94.He called it ''mass production'' and was the happiest person ever. He bought lots of gifts for them and we went everywhere with the 3 babies.Now they are grown and working. We went in in pouring rain to see a new baby and I am glad I have pictures. That baby is now 22 years old.The years have sure passed.
Our lives revolved around the kids who always could hit Grandpa up for money and gifts.
I realize he is with the Lord now so my sad times are fewer.I have my job and my church.And God has been with me all the way.I have a lot of faith and I still have my wonderful parents who are 86 and 87 years old.They are amazing.I am 68 and feel blessed to have them. They loved my husband very much.
I am thankful for our years together and the good times. He started getting sicker the last few years with his heart condition. He went to be with the Lord Nov 22nt 2009.I know that some day we will meet again in heaven.

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Nov 22, 2014
Five years ago today
by: mariana

Today it is 5 years since my husband went to be with the Lord.I sure miss him and so do the grandchildren.
We had many happy years together.He adored the grandchildren and lavished them with love.
It is hard to believe 5 years has passed. I had a birthday on Nov 20th and it brought back memories of the two of us going out to dinner to celebrate.
It has been a difficult 5 years but I realize that to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. Today we went to put flowers on the grave and joined hands in prayer. We thanked God for the years we shared with him. I cried when my little 6 year old granddaughter thanked Jesus for her grandpa. I am blessed and all 19 grandchildren love the Lord. There is a second great grandbaby coming in March and my husband will be rejoicing from heaven.I sure miss him and just continue the usual working and going to church. God is good even when we have sadness.My heart goes out to all who have lost a loved one. Mari


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Nov 22, 2014
Five years today
by: Mari

Five years ago today my husband went to be with the Lord.By the grace of God I have come through those years.I still miss him and I always will. His generosity and love of the children and grand children will always be remembered.
He would be so pleased to know a new great grand baby is coming in March.The other great is now 3 yrs old. There are 19 grandchildren who loved him dearly.
My mother has been a wonderful help and comfort. She is 88 yrs old and I turned 70 Nov 20th.My husband always made a big fuss over my birthdays and would take me out to dinner.
My church has been an awesome comfort.I always say that God will see a person through the sad times. I am still working for a wonderful Armenian family and it has been 4 yrs there and the best job I ever had. God is good.
We are going to the grave site today with flowers and will ask the pastor to be there with us. I am trying not to cry. I know that to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. May God bless all who have lost a loved one. Mari

Oct 16, 2013
your loss
by: Mari

I am very sorry for your loss and can imagine how you are feeling. The thing is that 7 months is not very long. You are still in the grieving process.Time is what you need. A day at a time.I too stayed out of church for a time but went back and have never regretted it.God will carry you through the difficult time.
We are here for you too.The grieving time is different for everyone but one day you will find yourself feeling better knowing your husband is with the Lord.
Nov 22nt will be the 4 year mark for me. I look at pics of my husband holding each new grand baby and they are adults now with jobs and cars. It makes me wish we could return to those happier times but we have to go on.
We are planning a memorial service on that day and I will ask my pastor to be there. My daughter and grandchildren and then we will go to church to have the great granddaughter dedicated to the Lord.My husband never got to see that precious little soul who is now 2 and 1/2.My husband sure loved his grand children.
I still miss him very much. My birthday is Nov 20th and my husband use to take me to Brooks Ranch for a nice meal and the employees would sing happy birthday to me. Yes I sure do miss all that.but God is good and he will be there for you too.What has helped me is that every morning I say,''This is the day the Lord God has made.'' Keep posting whatever is on your mind and heart. We care for you.

Aug 20, 2013
loss of husband
by: Mari

I am terribly sorry for your loss. I know that it sure is difficult with the passing of your loved one just 7 months. That is not very long and believe me when I say I went through it.At 7 months I was deeply in grief still and thought I would always be.With my husband's side of the bed empty I could not sleep on that side. I gave the bed to my one of my daughters and got a new one.I still cannot sleep on his side of the bed. The same with a leather chair I bought for him. It was a long time before I could sit in it.
Well, I kept going to church and at times I want to cry. I now thank God for the husband I had and asked God to give me joy again. He did. And He will do it for you. But you must go through the grieving time. Be with loved ones and keep going to church.
Not so long ago I was driving in Fresno and I put my finger on the onstar button of my car. I was actually going to let my husband know where I was. I always had.Those are memories. You need time. Just take things a day at a time. We are here for you. Believe me time is a great healer. God bless. Keep posting. Mari

Jun 18, 2013
Loss of Husband
by: Anonymous--Mi

I read your post that you are in the 4th yr without your husband and I think--"where will I be in 4 yrs?" I am happy for you that you are able to find comfort in your church and keeping busy. I am in the 7th month of my grief and I am isolating myself from church, dinners, visiting, etc because to be with couples or people who still are so happy with their lives and spouses is so sad for me to be in their company. They do not and cannot understand my grief because they have not experienced it yet. I hate being angry and so upset with others who are so happy while I am suffering. It is not in my nature to be angry with people's happiness but I just can't stop it from seeping into my thoughts and heart and soul. I have been angry with God for taking my dear husband of more than 43 yrs away from me. This is the worst journey I have ever been on. I am so sorry for venting like this but I don't know if in 4yrs I'll even have anyone speaking to me!! My grief has engulfed me and rather than hurt people or make them angry I just stay away. God, please help us all.

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