Loss of my eldest brother

by Dianne

I unexpectedly lost my big brother yesterday at the young age of 58. I had lost touch with him these last few years, and didn't know the extent of his drinking. He got diabetes, but would not go to the doctor's. I am told he looked like a very frail old man, who couldn't look after himself.

I feel shocked and very saddned by this, as I only learnt before Christmas that he was ill. I also feel guilt, as I should have made more effort to keep in touch

Comments for Loss of my eldest brother

Click here to add your own comments

May 22, 2014
Lost my brother
by: Anonymous

On the 19th of May, 2014 i had a phone call from my sister, saying that we lost our brother..I was unable to speak and cry.
Today when i was speaking with my mother,I broken down.I lost contact with my brother few years ago, since he got involved with this woman, but still i had so many things to tell him, that I loved him, that I will miss him and why he didn't tell any one that he was sick....He got sick because he was drinking a lot and his liver gave up, I was told that if he went to see a doctor few year ago, he will still had a chance to be ok and a life, but no..I lost him,Strange is that my father died on the 19 of March, few years ago, and berried on 23,the same thing happen to him, died on the 19 and will be berried on the 23 of this month in Portugal..Only one thing I need to say he was very young and I will miss him.Rest in peace my dear brother and god bless you, you will always be in my heart i love you... your older sister

Mar 18, 2014
Losss of my eldest brother
by: Doreen UK

Dianne I am so sorry for your loss of your eldest brother yesterday. You will feel RAW GRIEF for a while, but the secret is TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME. Diabetes causes so many complications and one has to be on top of this disease, otherwise one can go downhill quite quickly.
Pity life is so fast and complex and many lead such busy lives with work that we don't get the time to keep in touch with family members like we want to. Before we know it we have lost them. My husband worked hard for 47yrs. of his working life and then gets the worst terminal cancer ever just 2yrs. before retiring and he had to come out of work for his cancer treatment. I lost him 22 months ago. The first 6 months were the very worst for me. Best not to make any major decisions whilst grieving. I made some that I now regret. Living in the UK is getting more difficult for everyone. So many changes taking place that we become consumed by these changes that one has to work longer and harder. Very hard to keep up family time. I am learning now to pace myself with everything. I hope that life gets easier for you in the days and weeks ahead and that you will finally believe that you will come through your loss and live again, but it does take time.

Click here to add your own comments

Return to Lost Sibling.

[?]Subscribe To This Site
  • follow us in feedly
  • Add to My Yahoo!
  • Add to My MSN
  • Subscribe with Bloglines

RSS Feed Widget


Tap into the compassion, support and wisdom of the


Essential Healing Guide

Grief Relief

Free Griefwork

Free Stress

SBI Video Tour!