Loss of my granddaughter at just four days old.

by Patti

My daughter lost her four day old daughter.
The pregnancy was fine, the birth was fine, she weighed
At just six pounds two ounces and the Dr.
Predicted a small baby. She was fine at the hospital. She
Died in the early morning hours - the coroner
Ruled " undetermined". My daughter woke up
To find her daughter lifeless. We are all devastated,
As the year anniversary approaches- I'm more frighted
Than I've ever been in my life and I don't know why.

How do I help my daughter? I just have days when
I feel like " I'm having a good day" & recently I'm
Starting to just be overwhelmed with pain.

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May 26, 2014
my condolences
by: Anonymous

ill include you in my prayers.....i lost
my two day old son.....life has,never been the same ...i feel as though im dreamin .....but God is faithful ....he will also bless her with another baby....

Mar 26, 2014
Loss of my granddaughter at just four days old.
by: Doreen UK

Patti I am sorry for your loss of your baby granddaughter. It is always hard when the anniversary of the death is approaching. One wonder's how they will cope. Often it is just FEAR that takes over and causes us to feel that we won't cope. The best way to help your daughter is to be with her and support her the best way you can with what her needs are. There is no easy way to go through this day, but one moment at a time. Grief hurts so much. There will be a lot of tears shed, but this is healthy grief. Just when one thinks they are moving forward new memories assault and we find ourselves back at square one. But this doesn't last. Healing is a slow process. My daughter's mother-in-law lost 8 babies. She then became a very possessive mother with her granddaughter and my sister moved to Canada when it all became difficult. Life is so cruel to many people and we can't understand WHY?. I lost my husband coming up to 2yrs. now and this is the worst grief I could go through. But if I lost one of my 3 Adult children that would be the worst experience of my life. A mom carries her baby for nine months attached to her by the umbilical cord and when they die at any age it is as if that cord was not cut and the child is still attached to the mother. Same with a spouse. Joined as one and then the severing of that relationship is unbearable. The bonds established is what makes the grief harder to bear.

Mar 26, 2014
Beautiful Baby girl
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry for the loss of your grand daughter and my heart breaks for your daughter. I lost my son almost 3 years ago. Time does not heal when you lose a child. You will find that some days are more bearable than others. But the pain and sadness will always be with you and your daughter. I am learning how to live with it daily, not that I want to , but if I want to be here that is what I have to do. There are really no words that can help a grieving parent. All I can say is just pray for her and be there when she feels she can longer go on. We have to take it one moment at a time, looking to many days ahead is too overwhelming.
Take care of your daughter and yourself.

Mar 26, 2014
Your baby
by: Kate

I'm so sad to read this post. I lost my son 16 months ago,he was 39 yrs old. The first year I was pretty much in shock,numb,wondered how I got through,although the hurt was deep. Then it got real as the numb wore off and severe hurt came ,maybe this is the path you are on. It is hard to go on,I ask God to help every time I cry. It is hard! Not knowing why the baby died is so sad and leaves a void too. Death is so hard -my heart goes out to you. Take one day at a time,and know you are not alone. No one understands unless they loose a child. God be with you.

Mar 26, 2014
Loss of Grandaughter
by: Judith in California

Patti, I offer my deepest sympathies to you and your daughter at this most horrible heartbreaking time. Just be there forher anytime she needs is all you can do. Cry with her and hold her and assure her in the most heart wrenching days ahead.

May God watch over your whole family and give you strength to endure and to be at peace on the far side of grief.

My heart aches with you.

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