Loss of my marriage

by Annette
(Perth WA)

I am grieving the loss of my 23 year marriage. Even though the decision to end it was mine I am still grieving. I did not get married at 17 thinking that it would end with separation. It just fell apart. It took me 5 years to make the decision to leave it. A friend of mine said to me once that it doesn't matter who ends it, it still hurts. Its not easy for anybody. So my grief is very deep because I have to start my life again. One day though I will look at that as an opportunity. To all those people who are grieving for what ever reason please know that someone in this world understands your pain. And may god bless your life. Just know one thing - You are worthy of happiness.

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Aug 11, 2014
Grieving the loss of a marriage
by: Anonymous

I was married for 28 years & dated for 6 years before that. We have been seperated for 4 years due to his infedility. I tried to hang on to the marriage as long as I could, for a few reasons. One being, I desperately wanted to keep my family together & also not wanting to be alone. Unfortunately, he kept up with his infidelity & I couldn't hang on any longer. It felt like the right thing to end the marriage but I am still struggling with the loss of the family atmosphere & now living alone. I am very hesitant to get back into the dating world, mostly out of fear & the unknown & learning to trust again. It made me feel better to know I wasn't alone to feel this way but at the same time sad for others!

Jun 07, 2013
30 years down the drain!!
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Like many of you, I too am grieving the loss of my 30 year marriage. I got married when I was 19 and I am almost 50. How do I go back? How am I supposed to live without this man who has been in my life for over 60% of my life? I found out my husband cheated about 4 years ago (2009). I forgave him and we moved forward so I thought, even though red flags kept popping up, I chose to completely trust him. Around Christmas (2012) I followed him to a hotel where he met his girlfriend from 4 years ago. I was devastated, but mostly angry. I chose to leave him in hopes that he would see the error of his ways. However,yesterday, I saw him with another woman (not the girlfriend) and it absolutely CRUSHED the rest of me. I have been crying ever since. How can he just toss me away after 30 years and 3 children? I need to know how to make the pain stop. I know I don't want him anymore, but I can't stop the hurt. I can't stand the fact that while my life is turned upside down, he's enjoying life with other women. I've prayed for understanding, but I can't seem to wrap my head around why I'm the only one hurting. Did those 30 years mean nothing to him? How is it that he can move on so fast while I'm left in limbo hell?

May 15, 2013
Trying to let go
by: TERESA

I was married 31 years at age 18. I've been divorced now 1 year. I finally left after the heartbreaking pain of feeling that he no longer wanted me or wanted me in his life at all. I thought we had something special for many years. He has been with another woman since and this has hurt me very much since he no longer desired me the last couple of years. I can't even think about being with another man. I have to continue to pray, and wait that God will change me so I won't hurt, and I can let go.

Apr 10, 2013
heart and oainache
by: Anonymous

Hi, my name is Linda I know you're pain my story is married for 25 years together for 30yrs still a couple in the 6yrs we have been apart then found out he has someone else and I cannot cope I am depressed I pray for you that you start to heal before you reach the depths of despair like me xxx

Feb 05, 2012
PAIN OF DIVORCE
by: Anonymous

I AM GRIEVING OVER THE END OF MY 15 YEAR MARRIAGE, MY HUSBAND DECIDED HE WAS DONE WITH ME AND TOOK UP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN. THE HURT IS ALMOST UNBEARABLE, THINKING OF HIM HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE OTHER THAN ME AND THERE IS NOTHING I CAN DO ABOUT IT. NOW HE WANTS THE HOME AND DOESN'T CARE ABOUT HIS SON OR GRANDKIDS WHO LIVE IN THE HOME ALSO. NOW I MUST BEG AND BORROW TO GET UP MONEY FOR A LAYWER TO PROTECT ME AND MY KIDS.

Jul 11, 2011
God the pain is terrible
by: Angelina

I read your post about your pain and grief over your lost marriage. I, too, have lost my marriage. After 15 years of marriage, my husband admitted to me that he is gay. I am devastated that I spent 15 years blaming myself for our stagnant marriage. But also angry that he had the key to why it was not working. He chose to keep me in the dark in the closet with him and not reveal his sexual orientation. I grieve for the loss of trust, the years of self-loathing I had because he lead me to believe that there was something wrong with me and the death of my dream of marriage.

I am so sorry for your pain and pray it lightens in the days, months and years to come.

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