Loss of my only sister

by Jason
(Louisville, KY)

I lost my older sister in May 2014. I was at work when my mother called and said my sister was dead. I was so numb I just stayed on the phone in shock for what felt like an eternity while my Mom kept asking. "Hello? Hello? Did you hear what I said?" It was the moment my entire life changed. My sister and I talked just about every single day. She was a widow and her 10 year old son, my nephew, had lost his dad three years prior at age 7, only to lose his mom too at age 10. The anguish and sadness and grief and anger are sometimes hard to describe. I flew down to visit immediately to be with my family and make final arrangements. Having to hold my Mom's hand in the funeral home to go over paperwork as she wept at having lost her only daughter and explaining everything to my 10 year old nephew were the hardest things I've ever had to do. Right now, it's too fresh, too raw, and all I feel is so much pain. I love you sis. I miss you.

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Jun 09, 2014
Loss of my only sister
by: Doreen UK

Jason I am sorry for your loss of your sister. You have a 10yrs old nephew who will need a lot of nurturing now he has lost both his parents. I know you will mentor him so he grows up well. A mother is never prepared to lose her children and this will be especially hard on her. The best way forward is ONE DAY AT A TIME. The anguish and sorrow will remain with you for some time especially in the first few weeks of loss. You will have good days and bad days. You may feel numb for some time like frozen grief. Life is so fragile, each day as we hear of more and more people dying all around us. There is no easy way for any one of us as we try to cope with our pain and heartache from day to day.
I lost my husband 2yrs. ago after being married 44yrs. It is his birthday tomorrow and I have another anniversary to deal with.
My mother died 11yrs. ago and it is her birthday today a day before my husband's. It is these anniversaries that remind us of yet another year without our loved one's. Life will ease up for us as time unfolds This is all we can hope for, but it is still a very painful journey.

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