Loss of my spouse

by Kenneth
(South Africa)

My wife passed away in April last year after a short illness leaving 2 small boys aged 12 and 10 i had to deal with my pain and their, pain sometimes when looking at the younger one I cry he used to be on my wife's lap most of the time now when ever I am at home he brushes me and sits on my lap and my response to both of them is we will be okay, i have moved them to a new school and environment i am keeping our old house for holidays,I have accepted that she is gone and she will be proud that we are coping

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May 26, 2014
loss of my spouse
by: Kenneth

Exactly one year one month since i lost my wife the boys are growing but it still doesnt make sense i miss her and i realise nothing will ever be the same again I feel so empty but I love my boys i wish she was here to laugh with me because the boys are very funny and they amaze me by their strength they know that i have to work and they know when i am resting we are our own team they still talk about her the pain is gone but the scar is deep and fresh it leaves a special painful feeling that only we feel and other people dont even notice although we dont talk about it whenever her name crops up we always lock our eyes in understanding she will always be missed

Feb 10, 2014
Loss of my spouse
by: Doreen UK

Kenneth I am sorry for your loss of your wife. You have a very mature outlook and response to your grief. There will come days when it seems too much to bear alone as you struggle with juggling your responsibilities of being father and mother to your 2 boys.
They will be fine with you as their dad looking out for their best interests as you nurture them. I lost my husband to cancer 21 months ago and I have no choice to go on in life. My children are all grown adults. I have the responsibility of keeping and running a home which is a burden at times. My husband was a carpenter and I worked as his wife and labourer for over 44yrs. I learned a thing or two. I do the repairs I can and get the tradesmen in to do the rest. I miss my husband very much and how well we worked together.
In time you will pick up the pieces of your life and make it count. Your children will grow up and be proud of their Dad. Best wishes.

Feb 09, 2014
loss of spouse
by: Anonymous--MI

Kenneth, I am very sorry that you have lost the love of your life. I am very sad to think you and your two sons are on this journey of grief. I too, lost my husband Nov 2012 to Sudden Cardiac Arrest and I know your anguish and pain. You sound like a wonderful Dad and your words show that you love them very much and have their best interest at heart. May you look to God to help you in this time; my prayers will be with you and all on this site who are grieving.

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