Lost 4 family members in 12 months

by Michelle Yarbrough

Last year my cousin was diagnosed with cancer. She was only in her early 50's and we were all devastated. She was very sick so she did not live long and within four months she passed away. It was on my daughter's 9th birthday. Two months later my uncle had a stroke while at home alone. He was paralyzed on his left side. He slipped into a coma and my family had to decide to take him off of life support. We could not afford a funeral so he was cremated. This was right before Christmas and after Thanksgiving. We were all so shocked and devastated. Two months later my other uncle on the other side of the family fell in his home it wasn't sure what exactly happened if he had a stroke or what but then he also slipped into a coma and had to be removed from life support. This was on my birthday that he was taken off and passed away. He was my favorite uncle. I just fell apart at this point. I hadn't even gotten over my cousin or other uncle dying and now my favorite uncle that i was so close to was gone too. Just last week On July 2 one year exactly from the date my cousin died I got a phone call from my grandmother telling me that my cousin who was only 31 years old was in a highway work accident. A asphalt truck had backed over him when he was bending down to pick up a sign. I couldn't believe it and I am still in shock and disbelief. It's like I don't want to believe this is real and all of these people who were so wonderful and I loved so much are gone now. Today I had a huge panic attack while driving because two semis flew up behind me. I am in constant worry about who is next in my family and is something going to happen to me or my kids. My family has a history of tragedy and its all I can think about now. I have to see a dr. to get control of my anxiety and somehow I have to get through this grieving process but I don't know where to start. So many deaths in a short time is too much to process and it puts you in complete shock. Please if anyone has any ideas or ways I can heal please let me know and pray for me and my family thank you.

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Jul 30, 2012
Death. Taxes. And waiting on uncle sam
by: Rob Cornett

It started early in 2007 for me! On jan.6 my dad died at the very young age of 65 from a 10year battle with mouth and throut cancer .
Then on feb. 22 the very next month, one of my oldest and best friends that was married to my nease that I grew up with and was the same age as me.(just like a sister) Died of massive heart attack instantly at home.
I was still dealing with dad's death but this so shocking I had to get it together and be there for my (family) . I told myself it can't get worse than this....... My wife of 13 years and mother of my two girls ages 13 and 9 passed away on may 2 from an overdose of medication to which she had been dealing with and my kids and I had a long hard life of having a loved one have a bad drug problem. Words can not begin to describe the pain of seeing ur kids suffer such loss.(I feel numb its not real)
On nov2 my brother dies at age41 tragically. Please!! Help me God in heaven above.!!!). Today is July 30 2012 God sent me an angel. Thanks to my present wife Ashley I am alive ,,and my Girls have a good and promising life. I only hope I can get what I am entitled to from social security so I can give my family a normal life as they should have. ROB C.

Jul 15, 2012
Lost 4 family members in 12 months.
by: Doreen U.K.

Michelle I am sorry for the loss of your cousin and all the other 3 members of your family. I lost my husband to cancer. I understand where you are at. Firstly because you have experienced 4 deaths. You wouldn't have had time to grieve each one. You will have had grief piled on top of grief and not be able to process things. You must see a bereavment counsellor. You need this support otherwise you will be stuck in grief and not be able to move forward. This will only happen when you are ready to move on. Don't attempt this now. it is too early. You do feel numb and then when you thaw out you feel all this pain and sorrow. It overwhelms you. YOu feel you will not survive this. It is a horrible place to be. Make sure you have good support whilst grieving. You are not ALONE. One day at a time is all we can take. You need to focus on trying to put some things in place for yourself so that you give time to grief otherwise it will only get worse. I hope the days ahead will find you in a place where you can explore your feelings and the pain you are in. You will be able to sort things out better in your mind.

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