Lost 4 family members in 8months

It all started with my grandma being sick and she asked us if she could die at home, we brought her home in march, and she died April 1st, 2010, at 12:05 am! Grandma was the glue that held the families together, she was my rock and my inspiration. On June 6th 2010, I lose my twin brother to an overdose, at 2am I get a call from my mom that he wasn't acting right, I go down to the house and he is sweating profusely and had a blue tint to him, he falls to the ground of my parents porch and I see his beautiful green eyes roll back in his head, I knew he was gone! He was mamas boy, and the loss of her mom and son was to hard I think for her to bear, she died November 18th, 2010, a day before her 62nd birthday of multiple severe strokes, I just didn't understand why this was all happening! And then on December 28th, 2010, I lost my husband in a tragic house fire, I was devestated, don't know why he was there, or how he died, a lot of unanswered questions! It's now 2012 and my life is no easier, I cry at pictures, songs, the sounds of names, I wonder at the age of 39 now, how I to start over! Life is so unfair and I'm at a total loss of what to do!!!!

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Jul 17, 2012
Psalm 18:6
by: Anonymous

I am so, so very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine how you must feel. I normally don't post online but your story compels me. I have lost 4 family members in 8 years, most recently this past week. I am the only surviving member of my immediate family with nearest relatives 5 hour plane ride away. I am isolated and it seems people treat grief and dying like a contagious disease. I sleep, pray and stay strong for my child. Please know that I am praying that God will comfort and strengthen you...that He may send love your way through many caring people and oasis moments.

Jul 14, 2012
Lost 4 family members in 8 months
by: Doreen U.K.

I am so sorry for all the 4 losses of your family members within such a short time in your young life of 39yrs.
You seem to have had one loss on top of another and not the time to grieve each loss. I really urge you to go and see a counsellor so that you will be able in a safe environment to grieve these losses before you go on another day. It is impossible to go on in life with so much sorrow and grief.
The loss of your husband is just the worst tragedy on top of all the other deaths. It is such a cruelty to your young life that I can't imagine how you must be feeling with all that grief. Your grandmother was the strong support you all needed. You would need someone equally as strong at this time to just hold you up. I am at a loss how to support you at this sad account of your life and how you go on from such a multiple loss.
I can't even suggest to you to take one day at a time as I am sure you are already doing this. What you need to do is first go into counselling. TALK you need to expell a lot of this unfair tragedy. You need to put key people in your life to support you. If you are able. find your way into a church and get support from the Church. Jesus is the only person who can strengthen and uphold you at this difficult time. Allow God to put people into your life to make a difference. Don't look too far ahead as you will find it an enormous burden thinking too far ahead about what to do. At the moment I am not doing anything other than being on this website and supporting people like you. Do what you feel like doing. If this is not doing anything because of the way you are feeling then don't do anything. Just don't stay in isolation. You need good family members to put their arms around you and help you. You need good friends who will let you be yourself and not make you feel that you should be getting better. I honestly don't know when this will be. With the right support and care. You will be able to go on in life. Like all of us we have no CHOICE. This is a horrible place for you to be right now. You are not alone. We are all with you on this website to support you. I hope the days ahead will find you in a place where you will just know what you have to do. That you will be well supported. that you will be able to go on and life will improve.

Jul 14, 2012
It doesn't make any sense
by: Michalyn

I'm so sorry for your many losses.
It's got to feel like being hit by a freight train to try to contain so much sorrow.

I lost my 29 yr old son suddenly in 2011 and I finally have gotten to the point where I am not having episodes of crying even in public, often without warning.

I try to read the Psalms, and the gospel of John.
I find them comforting, though sometimes it seems nothing helps.

Please believe your life is valuable.
In your brokenness, you are a valuable child of God; your worth is immeasurable.

Your family is in a better place, whole and at peace. I believe you will see them again in God's time.
God has a purpose for you until then.

I believe he sees our suffering, though we can't
understand it.

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