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by Margaret
(Baltimore)

My co-worker who sat just about two feet from me for 2 1/2 years died of an illness a few months ago. You don't get to 50 plus years without having lost a lot of people from your life, but I guess this is the first time I've lost someone whom I currently spent so much time with on a daily basis. Besides being a dear person, even though she was over a decade younger than me, she was also like a mother to me in a way.

On the same day she died, coincidentally, I got moved to a room of my own at work. Now I work through tears many days. Sometimes I just think it's because I'm lonely in here, and I don't know why I can't reach out when I'm outside my room and talk to people more, but I think I had forgotten to acknowledge to myself that I may still be grieving.

I don't like to talk about my grief at work because everyone loved this person...so I don't want to make others sad...nor make them think that I think we were closer than someone else. Some of them knew her longer, did things with her outside of work, etc. I think she was just as close or closer to many of my co-workers than she was to me, but she blessed my life so much. I know her passing through my life was only a blessing even though she is gone now, but I guess we all need to work through the pain of loss.

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grieving over a co-worker too
by: Jill

I relate to what you are saying because I am also grieving the loss of a co-worker and it is more devastating than most people can understand. Co-workers can become part of our "chosen family" and that bond can be every bit as tight as blood. My co-worker Alex was killed by a drunk driver three weeks ago. We spent every day side by side for almost five years. We knew each other so well, we could often read each other's minds. After a great loss, people often throw themselves into work to escape. That doesn't work when you are grieving the loss of a co-worker, does it? Customers (and people in general) think, "Ah loss of a co-worker, so sad." and then expect you to be over it in a week or two. Most people just don't understand the bond. I spent more time with Alex than any other human being for the last five years. He was almost like my son (I'm 15 years older than him). Every morning I cry when I catch myself thinking about what we are going to do together that day. I can relate to your pain. Thanks for sharing.

LOSING A FRIEND
by: Anonymous

When we lose a loved one in our family, we are broken hearted. When we lose a friend, they take a piece of our heart with them. There will always be a part of your life missing. no one else can take that friend's place. The loss of a family member, brings all the family together to lean on each other for support. But often, when a friendleaves us, we are left to mourn alone.
My prayers and blessings for comfort to you.

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