Lost Dad at 9 he was only 34
My dad died in a boating accident in 1968 I am was the oldest of four children being 9 years 2 brothers 8 and 2 and a sister 6 I suppose all of us have struggled with elements of our life . I have been married 3 times probably the main reason is a lack of ability to show affection for prolonged periods . A telling point I remember from Dads death was I was crying in my room and my mother said please do not cry you will make me cry , I still wonder if I have have grieved properly even after all these years . I am relatively happy in my own company but like most hopeful of one day meeting my soul mate .My brother below me has since passed away under inconclusive circumstances about 8 years ago and part of his death was related to the loss of our father .
Another important factor is how a wife or mother reacts to the tragedy .
I am hoping by sharing a bit it helps me and perhaps others who might feel a bit alone out there .
Attached is a photo of the four of us just after our father died with words put together by a lady who was like a second mother to my father and a grandmother to us .