Lost first 2 love after 2 years

My Girlfriend of 2 years whom I lived with for the past 8 months has now broken up with me because she is 29 and I am 25. She is looking to start a family and move from the city we live in and right now I am just not willing to settle down and have kids. On top of that she has a 50/50 chance of getting early onset alzheimer's disease. This could leave me with a 10 year old kid and a wife in a long term living center. I told her we could compromise on where we live but as for starting a family we need to talk to a professional about her chances of getting this terrible disease and what it could mean for our children, after all no one wants to try and put a kid through college and then also pay for a long term care center for your wife who cant remember who you are. I am now seeing her go through her own stages of grief I am just sorry I can't be there to be by her side.

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May 04, 2012
Lost first 2 love after 2 years
by: Mari

To begin with not everyone gets alzheimer's and for
another thing the age difference isn't that great.You are basing your feelings on what may or may not happen.
The kind of love you need to feel for someone should be the kind of love that is unconditional.It is good that you let her go so she can find that kind of love.
We do not know what tomorrow will bring.My mother will be 86 on May 10th and she sure doesn't have alzheimer's. Not everyone gets it.
You may have let a jewel get away.

Mar 20, 2011
Gave up too soon
by: Anonymous

Even early onset Alzheimer's would not manifest for probably 15 to 20 years. Researchers and doctors are making advances in the cures for dementia as well as prevention. By taking preventative measures, even if she were to get it, which isn't certain, it would be significantly delayed. I think in the next 20 years we will see a "cure" for Alzheimer's. Therefore you may have lost the love of your life for a problem that won't happen.

Not to mention that you could get in an accident and become paralyzed, and she has to take care of you for your whole life. Life isn't certain. Love and marriage are risks because you don't know what challenges may be thrown at you. But challenges will come.

Mar 19, 2011
What Love really is...

My father took care of my mother for 20 years with Alzheimers disease. He Loved her for better for worse, through sickness and health.

How did you determine the 50/50 odds of her getting this disease? My Husband Loved me for 17 years and knew about my mothers condition when we met.

Gee my dad also had heart disease and I have not dropped dead yet. Oh that's right Paul did first so much for the odds of who will live longer.

Life is a gift; it is also a crap shoot of who will be the one to become ill and who will be the one to care for them. I would not trade our short 17 years together for anything.

You are young and selfish I hope that you outgrow it because Love is caring more about someone than you do yourself.

Mar 19, 2011
love first 2 love after 2 years
by: Jules

My dear young man - and you are still a young man - you have taken the best decision you could, not only for yourself, but for the one you love - you have set her free to find someone who can love her unconditionally -

Sometime in the future your love will realise this, and maybe say a silent thank you to you.

You, yourself, will find someone that you can love unconditionally, hopefully, but the thing about true love is that you can't choose, you can't put conditions on it - you either do or don't love someone through thick and thin.

I hope you find yourself someone to love, who loves you, and can bring out the best person in you -

take care

Mar 18, 2011
by: Judith

You don't have what it takes to be a good mate. I speak for the thousands of folks who ended up taking care of their spouses until the end of their lives and cared for them even tho they didn't know who they were. They may not know who you are but you still know who they are. You love someone unconditionally with your all or not at all.

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