Lost husband four years ago and miss him terribly today
by Sue Bunning
(Statesboro, GA, USA)
My husband, Jim, and I were married in June, 1982. We had our son, Jason, in May, 1984. Jim got sick in April 1984 with a rare virus that damaged two thirds of his heart. In July, 1985 he was the first successful human heart transplant at Vanderbilt Medical Center. He went back to work a year later and had 10 years of very good health. He was a wonderful husband and father, very dedicated and nurturing.
When Jason was in 5th grade Jim lost his last kidney and was on dialysis for 13 months and then received a kidney transplant. In 2000 and 2001 Jim lost both legs below the knee. He had been an athlete and really breezed through his rehab. Through all of this he worked full time off and on and later part time.
In between Jim was life flighted to Vanderbilt a couple of times for systemic infections but made it through.
All through this Jim, Jason and I enjoyed the everyday things and supported each other. Some of the most memorable times were when Jason would bundle Jim up in the car with his wheelchair when he was recouping from his amputation and take him to the soccer tournaments out of town. He would get him out the car and situated and then go and stretch before his soccer match. Jason played soccer since he was 4 years old through 4 years of college and his father was there for almost all his games. When he was in college his father went up to a college game while I was working and went to eat pizza with the team. When Jim had to leave to drive back home Jason stood up and hugged his dad and said "I love you Pops" and wasn' t the least embarrassed in front of his teammates.
May 8, 2008 Jim's heart stopped and the local hospital could not bring him back. I am so glad we had a chance to be a family for so many years but I miss him so much. My son is married now and I have a granddaughter but I live 10 hours away. We keep in contact but I miss my son and being more a part of his life too.
I have made many friends where I live now and have a good job . I just miss that closeness we all felt for so long.
God really blessed us!