'lost husband of 25 years

by june
(philadelphia, pa)

me and my husband were soul mates from the minute we met, it was like cupid's arrow hit both of us at the same time, he died from prostate cancer and i became his caregiver. i loved him so much, he gave me so much joy in my life and i am very lost without him. i do have some good days but most of my days i just want to sleep and eat and not think, hurts to much to think. feel like i really don't want to go on but am forced to because of pets and family obligations. i want to be with him so bad, and it usually hurts so bad. it seems to be a whole different life without a partner to share it with. i have been with a life parnter since 12 years of age so this is all new business for me. thank god, i am handy and can fix stuff which alot of my girlfriends can't do. at this point i really don't know how to get myself out of this rut. i lost him on february 21, 2012.

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Jun 29, 2012
'lost husband of 25 years
by: Doreen U.K.

June I am sorry for the loss of your husband of 25 years. Steve and I were married 44years. The loss hurts us so much. If feel the same way you do. I don't feel like going on in life without Steve. You make plans as part of life and hope you can live them out. It hurts to hear of others making plans. Going on holiday, or just down to the supermarket or DIY store to by things for the home. It hurts. We had just finished doing an extension to the house and it looks so good. Steve only got to live in it for 6 months. He didn't get to enjoy the home he worked so hard to build up. Just like you I feel the same. Not motivated to do anything. But you you just get on with it. You are fortunate to be able to fix things. My husband was a carpenter and for over 40 years I worked alongside him and we did the jobs together. There are things I can do and things I have to get a tradesman in to do. Steve was not able to do anything in the 3years of his cancer. He was ill throughout so he didn't even get to enjoy the new extension. It was just there. I don't want to live in the home he built up for us. I want to move home. It hurts when you have to go on. Because we have a heartbeat that says so. It is a cruel future for us as widows. Some people like living on their own. I don't. I need someone in my life. I couldn't find a new partner. It isn't even on my radar. I don't want to soil the memory of my Steve. He was my heartbeat. I hope that the days ahead will allow you some Peace and Serentity.

Jun 29, 2012
lost husband of 25 years
by: Mari

I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. It has been recent and you have the grieving process to go through. It isn't easy to lose someone you loved for 25 years.
There will be difficult times to get through and you may feel it will never get better but time helps and the fact that others care for you. We are here for you.We have been through it also so have an idea of what you are feeling.
It takes faith in God and people near you for comfort. We have to go on and we did not ask for this.
My husband passed away Nov 22 2009 so it have been 2 1/2 years. I am much better. I still think of him but know he is out of pain and with the Lord. My granddaughter and great grandbaby moved in with me and I also got a cat in the process. I feel better. comforted with them here.
Take care of yourself and know that you are not alone in this. It is hard , no doubt about it but just take a day at a time. God bless you.

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