Lost mom to pancreatic cancer

by Kim
(Westland, mi)

My heart is broken like I never thought it could be. Mom was healthy walking 3 miles a day, she was 77 . She got sick they told her it was a bug and she ended up in the hospital on 8/2/2013 with a high fever. Ran many tests found out she had pancreatic cancer and she dies 7 weeks later. 7 weeks from time of diagnosis to death. I can't even wrap my mind around that. I miss her so much and I feel so empty. My family tries to help, but I just shut them out. I don't know why but I do. How do you even get past this , I'm lost

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Jul 08, 2014
Lost mom to pancreatic cancer
by: Anonymous

Kim, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm on the same journey. My precious mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in October of 2013 and died 6 weeks later. I've been in shock and consumed with grief. It isn't getting easier but my faith in God is getting me through it. Surely in time the grief will lesson. Pancan is just horrible. My mother didn't have the excruciating back and stomach pain but she suffered from acites as the cancer had spread to her omentum. She did have a few good days and for that I am thankful. Also, she was constantly surrounded by her family and was never alone.

Jul 08, 2014
Lost mom to pancreatic cancer
by: Anonymous

Kim, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm on the same journey. My precious mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in October of 2013 and died 6 weeks later. I've been in shock and consumed with grief. It isn't getting easier but my faith in God is getting me through it. Surely in time the grief will lesson. Pancan is just horrible. My mother didn't have the excruciating back and stomach pain but she suffered from acites as the cancer had spread to her omentum. She did have a few good days and for that I am thankful. Also, she was constantly surrounded by her family and was never alone.

Oct 25, 2013
Response to beth
by: Anonymous

Beth I do appreciate the words of wisdom. I know pancreatic cancer is slow to show and fast to go. I just found out I have my own journey I am on. I have breast cancer. I never dealt with cancer and now two in three months. I know it's all happening for a reason and someday that reason will be clear. Hold tight to your son and husband. Share every story you can to keep your mom alive with him. He will truley know her threw you. I hope time heals your pain, softens your heart and gives you peace. Prayers your way also......

Oct 24, 2013
I lost my mom to pancreatic cancer
by: Beth

I lost my mom to pancreatic cancer on June 18, 2013. She was diagnosed March 28 and in hospice care by May 21. 2 1/2 months from diagnosis to death. I am 29. I have a 3 year old little boy. She was my very best friend, my cheerleader, my world. And my little boy absolutely adored his Mi Mi. She was his favorite person in the whole world. And now she is gone. He will never truly know how wonderful she was and how much she loved him. And I will never feel the unconditional love of my mom again. I will never be loved like that again. I honestly know what you are feeling. I go to see her at the graveyard and I sit there and stare at her name...and I just can't believe it. She was just here 4 months ago! She was "healthy" 6 months ago. What the hell happened? I have had to dig and dig deep into my soul and find faith I never knew I had. I have to. I have to believe she was not taken from me for no reason. I have no words of wisdom. I haven't spoken with my family since the funeral. I cling tight to my little boy and my husband and do the best I can. I hope with time the pain will subside for you and for me. But, if it's any consolation whatsoever, you are certainly not alone. Prayers soaring your way...

Sep 30, 2013
Two years
by: Federico Lambea

Dear Kim, yesterday, two years ago, September 29, I've lost my Mum. I learned a hard lesson, only time can help us after. Be patient, and I hope You'll be recovered soon. The path is long, true, but being comforted by family, friends.... is possible. My bests wishes. Time to time.

Sep 28, 2013
Lost mom to pancreatic cancer
by: Doreen UK

Kim I am sorry for your loss of your mom so suddenly to cancer. If you are shutting out family and friends from helping you then you may find it more comfortable with a grief counsellor who are trained to deal with such difficulties in grief. None of us know how we are going to react when suffering a loss. We each handle our emotions differently. Nothing to be ashamed of. But try and not shut out people from your life who may never return and you find yourself in a very lonely place. No one would begrudge you TIME ALONE if this is your need. But communicate this to others so they don't get the wrong message and you have to waste energy trying to explain what you cannot understand is happening in your world. I lost my husband to cancer 16 months ago and I feel sad and miserable some days. I cry when I read other posts and often there are triggers where I weep for the suffering of others on this site who are all feeling the same way. We are close but yet so far as we cannot physically touch each other with comfort. It is done through words when sometimes we need a hug and the hand that touches us and somehow makes us feel less alone. May God comfort you in your distress and grief and bring you His Peace.

Sep 27, 2013
Your mom
by: Anonymous

Kim,
I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. You are still in shock and understandably so. The sudden (which this really was) death of someone so important in your life leaves you feeling unanchored to the rest of the world. I know the feeling too well having lost my daughter a year and a half ago.

In time the shock and initial grief will change and I hope you can lean on your family then. You will need them. They may need you too.

I'm so sorry you lost your mom. Try to open the door a little to just one person. You need love right now more than ever.

Hugs,
Lynne

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