Lost Mum and Dad in three months

by Brenda
(UK)

I lost my Mum and Dad to cancer last year, within three months of each other. Dad nursed Mum through her horrible ordeal with bowel cancer and then when she died, was told he too had terminal cancer. They were young, vibrant, hilariously good company and loved by all who knew them. A year on, I still don't know what the point of life without them really is, although I know rationally that death is inevitable and happens to all of us. The longing to have them back is quite intolerable - and fruitless. I hope it will get better but my world is forever diminished. I know the best days are behind me. Perhaps that's just the way it is. I just want to send lots of love to everyone who is also feeling the agony of loss. It seems so cruel that we love people so much and have to watch them die - it's like a sick joke. At least none of us are alone in this.

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Apr 08, 2013
I'm sorry
by: Jessica

Brenda,

I lost my parents within three months as well. My father passed on January 1, 2013 of liver cirrhosis and my mother on March 24, 2013 of breast cancer (diagnosed at stage 4 and battled for 7 years). To be honest, my emotions have been a roller coaster and I feel so, so lonely. Reading your post brought me some comfort knowing I am not alone and I thank you for that.

Warmly,
Jessica

Jan 07, 2013
Thrice of 2012
by: Susan

Lost my Dad in Feb 2012, he was 87 years old. Lose my mom 2 months later April 2012, she was barely 80 years old from a Stroke. They were married for 60 years and knew each other for 62 years old. Then, On New Years Eve, I lost my 20yr old Calico cat, "Joy"... Thank God for a New Year of 2013...

Dec 08, 2012
Lost Mum and Dad in three months
by: Doreen U.K.

Brenda I am sorry for your loss of your Mum and Dad to cancer within 3 months of each other one year ago.
Cancer is such a cruel disease that rips through families. My husband died of lung cancer caused by working with Asbestos, 7 months ago. I had to watch my husband die a slow painful death over 3yrs.39days. Our Oncology services have gone downhill and so my husband did not get the support he needed. He felt abandoned. he suffered not only physically, but also emotionally without support in declining Health Services due to lack of funding. Life is hard now and it will take us a long long time to come to terms with our loss and go on to make a new life without our loved ones around to help us through the tough struggles we face in a changing world. Like you say all the good memories are behind us. You sound like a young person and will probably have the chance to make a new life that will in time be meaningfull. The cycle of life goes on for young ones who get married, have children and make their own traditions. But without parents around YES! Life will be different and Lonely for a long time. None of us knows where to start to put our lives back in order. This is not a process that can be rushed. We have to let this unfold in the same way we will Heal in time from our Grief and sorrow. I am of an age where change is difficult and one does not know where to begin. So I will just have to let this unfold till I am able to make my life work for me again. I hope that you find a measure of comfort in your life and that life will unfold for you in a meaningfull way in the way you want it to be.

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