Lost my beautiful Mother and my Best Friend

by Colleen
(London, Ont)

I lost my Mom on Feb. 17,2013 and it has been the most hardest few weeks of our life... She went in with Pnomonia three weeks prior and come to find out she had a bad mechanical valve and they were going to preform a valve replacement surgery & they took her for a CT scan the Fri. prior and she had an allergic reaction to the dye that was put through her and ended up in the CCU having Kidney Diaylse because her Kidneys & Liver was failing. She was in the CCU for a week and come to find out she would never make it out. She passed away the next Sunday after the CT scan 8 hours after we left her that evening. It's really hard to deal with the fact that this could of been prevented and now my Dad has lost the love of his Life and my brother and myself have lost our Mom and best friend. I am in denial I think and I can not believe she is gone forever. I am back to work now and my daily routine and it's like life goes on or at least everything

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Mar 22, 2013
lost of you mother (Feb 2013)
by: Anonymous

To lost of my mom feb 2013. I know exactly how you are feeling because I lost my motheron the 22January 2013. My mom whas living with cancer for just over a year and on the 26 December 2012 at four the morning she went to make herself coffee and just collapse. I then rushed her to hospital where they sed there is nothing wrong and gonne send her home and I had to put up a huge fight to keep her at hospital. After she went for the one after the other operation they sed there is nothing more they can do and send her home. She fell into a coma four days later. All the kids where making turns to sit with her for the last 3days just make sure that she whas comfortable and to wet her mouth and ons Monday the 21st all of us fell a sleep for the fisrt night and only woke the morning at 4 and she whas gone. That whas the hardes morning of my life to see her lay there and I will never be able to speak to her again or just to hear the words Ek is lief vir jou my kind. How dose one make peace with that its 2month today and it feels like a life time all ready. I miss her more and more every day and I will find my self picking up the phone and dail her nubber just to be remember I can't call her. I don't think its ever gonne get beter couse I lost the most pressured thing I had and can never get it back. My heart goes out to everyone that lost a mother.

Mar 13, 2013
i can relate to you.
by: Anonymous

I lost my mom on february 16th 2006. I am soo sorry for your pain it is unbearable most times. I too went on with life as if nothing happened i was in denial and the pain was too much for me to bear. I cannot tell you it gets easier because i am married now and i still feel like i did the day she died but take it one day at a time i will be praying that God gives you peace that surpasses all understanding to help you and your family deal with your loss.

Mar 13, 2013
Mother loss
by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I found your post as I was searching for some support, my mom is suffering dimensia & parkenson, she has a short time left. It is just killing me, I cannot function.
Hope your getting along better now

Mar 13, 2013
Lost my beautiful Mother and my Best Friend
by: Doreen U.K.

Colleen I am sorry for your loss of your mom. In our grief we face all sorts of emotions and Denial is a way of protecting ourselves from utter devastation of our loss. I was in denial for 9 months and just thawing out. Our grief can also become frozen and we can feel numb for a long time. All sorts of things happen for our protection. If you are struggling you can benefit from seeing a grief counsellor. You would be supported in a good way and you would be able to work through your grief better. The harsh reality of Death is that Life does go on and we can become startled at how our friends and relatives from our extended family can forget us and carry on as if life is normal. This can feel hurtful and insensitive. But many of us experience this. Your father will be especially lost for a long time. I lost my husband of 44yrs. 10 months ago to a deadly cancer. He died slowly over 3yrs. I nursed him. My husband had an allergic reaction to the dye when he had a CT Scan. He broke out in a bad body rash. He persevered because it gave the Oncologist a better interpretation of the Xray taken. Life will never be the same for any of us with our loss. It does often feel surreal. I still wake up in the night and early morning and can't believe my husband is never coming back. This is the hard part. Not seeing his two baby grandchildren grow up. He would have been immensely proud of them and taught his grandson his skill and trade of carpentry. There is an emptiness in life now and it becomes so very lonely. Cherish each other and those you have left in your life. Find a close bond that will help you all to survive this loss better. It is hard. I can't pretend that I sometimes feel like stopping the world and getting off. Going back to work is something you had to do and in many ways can provide you with a distraction. But take time to grieve. Don't store this up. You will get through life better. But it will be an uphill and downhill struggle for some time till you can all find your way back into establishing a new routine.

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