Lost my Best Friend and Soul Mate last month...

by Renee

I just lost my husband a little over a month ago. He was diagnosted with stage 4 stomach cancer on September 2, 2011 and left on January 7, 2012. I am still in shock and can not believe he is gone. We have two children 14 and 17 and they are also in shock.

Really, I have no clue how to go on without him...I yearn for him daily and have physical pain. I know he is with Jesus and I look forward to the day I leave this Earth and see him again. However, now I have a huge responsibility in raising our children and running our business.

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Mar 29, 2012
Best Friend-Soul Mate -Husband
by: Janice Smith

I lost my David to lung cancer that spread to his whole body. He passed on on Jan.19th.I watched him just fade away.We have a 14 yr old daughter.How do you cope?Every day for me gets harder and harder.I don't know where to start anymore. I don't want to do anything or go anywhere,just be by myself.I'm so depressed I don't know what to do.It's been over a year and I still cry over losing him.Can you give me any insight?You know what I'm going thru.

Feb 22, 2012
Our stories are very much the same....
by: Karen

I too lost my husband, soul mate and best friend of 32 years to stomach cancer. He was only 50 years young. He was diagnosed on August 8, 2011 and passed on November 7, 2011. I also have two teenagers, 14 and 16. We also have our own business, an art gallery that he ran, doing the sales and custom framing...I am the book keeper. Now, I have to handle the business, our only income and two teenagers. One of who wishes it was myself that died. It hurts daily. I miss him so much.

Feb 21, 2012
I am there with you
by: Abigail

My husband died on 18 December, suddenly - to a car accident. He was the love of my life, my best and my other half. I have two young children and am pregnant so I know the insane grief of trying to move on with responsibilities when you just want to tuck your head under the covers and not move an inch until you get to see him again in heaven. You are in my prayers. I am so sorry because nobody gets it but those of us who have experienced it and the more we share with others the more we are disappointed. That is when we have to trust God that he is there with us, walking with us, loving us, holding us, holding our tears and wants only the best for us. I have done a lot of reading the Bible as a result of this and I believe that I will be reunited and that there will be an amazing bond. Doesn't take away from those who want to be remarried. It was even encouraged for those who didn't want to live a life of sin. Take heart, God loves you, your husband still loves you with an even deeper love.

Feb 21, 2012
by: Kurt

Dear Renee, I am so sorry for the loss of your soul mate. Previous comment was correct, in that this is (hopefully)(by far) the hardest thing you will ever have to do. I don't like to give advice much, but will I say that a GOOD support group is your best chance of (eventually) finding the peace you crave so much.
I lost my wife more than two years ago, after years of cargiving. I started going to support groups 2 months after she died, and I still go two to three times per week. I can still have some seriously bad monents, but now that doesn't last more than a few minutes. I go to the groups also to help the newbees and to help guide them through the process. We also see each other socially, which is a huge help because people who have not had a loss just dont get it. Period. You need to be with people who get it. You will be amazed at how much better you will feel!! This is a time for you to learn how to take care of yourself, so take the time and make the effort. It will pay off big time. PS Reading about it just ain't gonna do it for ya. Please remember that the way you feel now will not last forever. I beg you to get help if you start to think seriously about suicide. It is very common with us grievers!!! Best of Luck, and I will check back to see if you respond and/or have questions, etc. kurt

Feb 19, 2012
One Day at A time
by: Judith in California

Renee, I'm so sorry for your loss. This will be the hardest thing you'll ever do. Grieving is a roller coaster ride of emotions so don't hold back. Grieve for as long as you want and how you want and ignore those who make foolish comments, like he's in a better place . They just don't know and have never experienced a loss.

You will go on but one day at a time and you and your children will be there for each other.

17 months ago I had to go through my loss very much alone and handle everything on my own. Each day is a healing day and I have just about reached the peace I need. Yes, I still love and miss him and always will but I have to live now for me. I lived completely for him for 35 1/2 years and it was clear to me I didn't know who I was or what I needed those first foggy days and months but I am stronger now for me as I was for him.

You will be okay one day, one breath,one minute at a time. And come here often and read of those who have gone before you and gathered strength. We are here for you and so is God.

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