Lost my best friend,My Husband of 30yrs together.

by Denice Hinderhan
(Fulton County,IL)

I Lost My best friend and Husband,
we met when I was 17 and he was 29,we dated for 3 weeks and he
proposed to me and we got married on December 23rd,It was love
at first sight,he was my first I ever dated.we have to
grown beautiful children together,our son is 28 and our daughter is 25,we have 6 Grandchildren ,Who we love very much.
My husband had COPD,and have had Fibrosis of the lungs,for 4 years,he was on oxygen 24/7 took alot of meds,and he was a very strong person,He was in the USMC,and they think he got Fibrosis from the old navy ships.This last year he was in the hospital more than he was home,He was trying to get on the lung transplant list but they denied him on Valentines Day 2012,they said he was to sick.So we celebrated valentines day
after all the crying we done that day.Our daughter and two
Granddaughters came down for Valentines dinner,then on the 15th
he want back to the hospital and on the 20th of Feb,2012 ,He came home,We was so excited to have him back home,then on thursday the 23rd we was going to the doctor,and he never made
it to the doctor we had to call 911 and took him to the local hospital,and they said his heart gave out,And he is gone,
That is the worse day of my life he was 58yrs and 5mos and 23 day old,still a young man,I Lost The Love Of My Life That Day,
I buried my heart that day with him,We was so in Love with each other after 30 year,He was the Best Husband,Dad,Grandpa
and A friend to everyone.He Loved Life So Much.How do I ever
deal with the loss of my Best Friend and Husband.I LOVE YOU BABY,08-31-1953 to 02-23-2012.D.A.H Sr.

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Aug 31, 2012
Its my Honeys first Birthday as a ANGEL
by: Anonymous

August 31,2012
was my Angels first Birthday in Heaven,It was a killer for me today so sad,
Our two grown children and our six grandchildren
and daughter-in-law,All went to his resting place
and sang Happy Birthday to my wonder husband there dad,and grandpa,we put balloons on his resting place and all ate a cupcake for his birthday at his resting place,I Love him so much and miss you
HONEY!!!!Its been six long miserable sad months,
I buried my heart with the Love of my life,and soul mate,my wonderful Husband Dale,I love you,your wife forever,Denice XOXOXO

Apr 08, 2012
First Holiday alone.
by: Anonymous

I am so sad today,my first holiday with out my Husband,we always made a big Easter dinner for our children and grandchildren,and always bought and made Easter baskets,but not this years,no dinner no Easter for me.just sitting here talking to my Husband,his pictures and holding his pillow tight,I am going to his resting place today and so are the Grandchildren and our two children,I miss him so much and love him ,My heart got buried with him on
2/23/2012.the day he passed,I love you My BEST FRIEND,MY SOUL MATE,THE LOVE OF MY LIFE,MY HUSBAND DALE!

Mar 15, 2012
by: Zoe

It's amazing how short 30 years is when you loose your beloved. When you loose your other half what half is left?
After two years I still don't have that answer. John was taken from me eleven days after his cancer diagnosis.
You are still in the raw hard part of grief. Grief is so hard you feel like you will never get your footing.
What I can share is the woman you were 30 seconds before he was taken from you. While we all understand grief is very personal. Do not let anyone tell you how to grieve, there is no correct way, there is no correct time.
Others will start to move on or feel like they are moving away.
They are not time moves differently for us.
What I can tell you is that you do get to a point
Where you can function. Your mind does allow you to function around the pain.
I am sorry you have joined this group this widowhood. I will tell you this sight saved me. Coming here at any time especially at night, we are here we understand.
But when you feel you can do nothing
One breath one step one day at a time.

Mar 14, 2012
Thank You
by: Denice Hinderhan

Well tomorrow will be 3 weeks for me,Since I lost my best friend,Husband,Lover,and the best Dad and Grandpa.It's not any easy today then it was Feb,23.2012,All I do is cry,I would love to just be able to see him or talk to him,I talk out loud everyday to him and tell him ,how much I miss him and Love him,It hurts so bad not having him here with me,I hate the nice weather because he loved this weather,he loved fishing with me and our kids and grandchildren,since he has went to heaven,I can't smile,or do any of the things we done together.I just feel guilty because he can't do them,So why should I be able to.I sleep with his pillow and hug and hold it all night long.I am so sad with out my BABY,I LOVE YOU SO MUCH BABY!

Mar 14, 2012
Husbands are Friends and Lovers
by: TrishJ

I know only too well how you are feeling. My husband was also my best friend. He fought a long and courageous battle against heart disease. He was placed on the UNOS list for cardiac transplant in MAY of 2010 but didn't make it to a transplant.
It's very lonely without your friend and lover. I miss him every day.
I can honestly say I am making some progress after 15 months. It's a constant battle. The picture of your husband with the oxygen brought tears to my eyes. My husband was on oxygen 24/7 for the last 4 months of his life.
I have come to terms with his death realizing how ill he was. He isn't suffering any longer but I still miss him. Now I feel like I'm doing the suffering without him.
Grief is a constant work in progress. We never fully get over the loss. We just learn to adapt and find happiness in what remains. Your husband will always love you and be watching over you. I live on that thought.
God bless. I hope you find something to smile about today.

Mar 14, 2012
I feel your pain
by: Anonymous

I so feel for you, I also lost the love of my life on 2/20/2012- after 34 yrs of marriage- still in love we were! He had copd and congestive heart failure. He was a trooper like your husband and fought so hard to live. I'm having a hard time facing tomorrow without him, but know We both have to go on- I have 6 grandkids too, who I love dearly. I am thinking of you.

Mar 13, 2012
feel your pain
by: Anonymous

Dear Denice, Let me first say how sorry I am for your loss. You can just sense how close you were by your beautiful picture. I too lost my husband of almost 30 years. I, too, always said that he was my best friend. The grief we feel when we lose our spouses cannot even be described to anyone. It has been almost 6 months, and I still cry almost every day. But, some days are not as bad as others. Time does heal a little. Stay close to your friends. and family for support. Let your new friends on this website offer comfort. Wishing you well. Joanne,Chicago .

Mar 13, 2012
Lost my BFF /Spouse
by: Kevin

I am also still in the early phase as well. I lost my best friend and wife of 30 years to cancer on 02-05-2012. Like you I am like a deer in the headlights..trying to figure out how to go on.. You are surely not alone with these feelings.

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