Lost my Brother

by Ace Alarcon
(Saskatoon, SK, Canada)

7 days ago, I lost my brother, he was shot and worst of all we don't know why and who...This is really so painful for me and our entire family...I am in a different country working and I can't even go back to my home country to say goodbye for my brother for the last time...I only here stories from my sister, my other brothers and my parents...This is so tragic, so sudden and he was violently taken away from us...My brother rarely go out of the house, he is a homebody and he is full time taking care of my mom since she had a stroke and could move her right arm...I don't even know how I could start all over again...I always go to church and pray for my family...I really don't understand why this has to happen...I am so angry...I am in so much pain...and I don't know what to do... I am trying to be strong but I just don't know how...I hope this pain will just go away...

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Nov 01, 2011
Lost my brother
by: acea

Hi Hali,
Thank you for your comforting words...My brother was really a big part of my life...we are so close and I am always there for him that is why I am really in so much pain that this time of his life I wasn't there for him. I still can't stop myself from crying everytime I remember him and what happened. I am also sorry for your son, Nabil...I exactly know how your daughters feel for their brother and I know that it is even more painful for you as a mother. I hope I have some comforting words too...For now, I just want to embrace my brother and tell him how much I love him. I will try to move on one day at a time, I think my mind can tell me that but the pain in my heart will always be there...it is so painful...
thanks again...

Oct 29, 2011
I'm so sorry
by: Anonymous


My thoughts are with you. I understand the pain and sadness that you're experiencing. I lost my precious son, Nabil, last November at the age of 22. We have two daughters and they're missing their brother everyday. Life is so very tough when a huge part of you is physically gone but our son and brother will always be in our hearts and minds for the rest of our lives. Supporting one another and taking comfort from caring friends and families help us to get through each day. Be gentle with yourself.


Oct 28, 2011
Lost my brother
by: acea

Hi HH,
Thank you for taking time to send me some comforting words...I really love my brother so much, we have spent so much time together and really wonderful times...But everytime I look back from the past it even made me more sad...I wish I were at home and had a chance to spend more time with him...I wish I was able to talk to him and say goodbye...it was so sudden and just like that...i still couldn't believe that he is gone...I prayed for some signs to let me know if he is ok now and I felt some answers which made me feel a little better knowing that he is in a better place now...I am looking at all his pictures and he seemed so happy and peaceful in all his pictures...I believe that time heals all wounds...but this one is the most painful I ever had in my life...I will try to move on for my kids and my husband so who loves me so much and for my family back home whose counting on me too...I will try, one day at a time...I know God is good and He will give me and my family that strength...
Thank you again...acea

Oct 28, 2011
Your Brother...

I wish I had the words to sooth your weary soul. Not knowing is so very hard. If there were a guide book to grief it would tell you to take it one day at a time. And while you mend take special care to notice all the beauty that surrounds you. All the little things that you never took the time to notice and some of them might well be signs from your brother, letting you know that he is o.k and wishes the same for you. Grief is by far the hardest thing that I have gone through and survived. But I can tell you that although it changes you, makes you different You will never take life for granted again. It just takes time to get to that point. My thoughts are with you during this miserable grief journey. Remember one day one step at a time...

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