Lost my dad 102 days from diagnosis to death

by Alistanzigmom
(New brunswick Canada)

Received word that my father, a father of 12 children and husband of 57 years had inoperable lung cancer that had spread to his liver. I took a leave from work after the news that chemo was not effective. He went downhill very quickly. He provided for everyone. He was very strong willed and generous. A huge business success that he left in the hands of my very capable brothers.
My mother is not a stable figure. He kept her mental health in check as much as he could but without him she can be quite difficult and hard to be around. I'm afraid ill never want to go there because I don't enjoy her company. She's just not someone I trust and i hate that I feel this way. It took a long time to realize why I felt this uncomfortable feeling with her and always sidestepped it when dad was alive

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May 08, 2013
Lost my dad 102 days from diagnosis to death
by: Doreen U.K.

I am sorry for your loss of your dad to this dreadful disease of lung cancer. I lost my husband 1yr. ago to Lung cancer caused by working with asbestos. His cancer was incurable and inoperable. We were married 44yrs. and this is a hard grief to come back from.
I feel sad for you mom that she may locked into a world she doesn't understand now with losing her husband. If you can't get on with your mom there will be reasons for this and I guess there is nothing you can do if you hate being in her presence. You are a large family and perhaps someone can look out for her and help her through her grief. Some people just have a personality that lends itself to not attract people to them. I guess they too wish they could be different and draw people towards them.

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