I have been with ups and downs with my parents and perhaps my dad was the last person to love me for who I was, and accepted me for all throughout being me as a transgender.

I was very happy with my life, having the person who last accepted me being me, and he turned out to be supportive in the last few years.

Suddenly, I lost him, I got news that he suddenly had a heart attack, so I went and saw him. It wasn't that good feeling, and my emotions are filled with grief.

My question is why is it that the more time goes by, the more I have been reminiscing? I thought time heals. But the more he's not around, we miss him alot....


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Feb 25, 2010
loss of your dad
by: Anonymous

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. May God be with you at this difficult time.

Your feelings are perfectly natural. I have felt the same way. Sometimes I feel I am losing motivation because I miss my husband so much. Yesterday was a particularly rough day. I did not feel up to Wed night church, but I told myself I was sure going to go and get blessed, and I did.

Time is a great healer and I feel that you and I both have to go through the hills and valleys of life to start anew. Your dad sounds like he was a wonderful person and you can always be thankful for having a dad like that. Take care of yourself.

Feb 25, 2010
Losing dadI
by: wina

I am so sorry about you losing your dad. Some things come unexpectedly and it really takes time to heal.

Healing doesn't mean you will forget the pain.
It becomes intense, the pain, especially when there are special occasions and holidays.
Let us just trust in God to allow His healing hands to watch your heart and soul.

For the mean time, find someone who is grieving also. Find a way to share your grief and strength.
Then you will see that you're not alone. And at the same time, you are more focused on lifting another grieving heart than just concentrating on yours.


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