Lost my Dad

I lost my Dad on July, 25, 2013 at 5:02 A.M. He suffered 16 months from lung cancer. He had radiation to his brain where it had spread and chemo for his lung. He was 67 years old. I watched him lose half his weight and his voice. His pain was heart wrenching to watch. I was with Dad when he died. He had a stroke and fell into my arms. The dead stare of his eyes still haunts me. It took close to two hours for him to take his final breath. His wife did show up and she was with us for the last 20 minutes of his life. I have alot of feelings I am trying to deal with and I'm not yet comfortable with talking with others. My Dad and I talked alot right up to the last day of his life. I miss him.

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Oct 09, 2013
Lost my Dad
by: Doreen UK

I am sorry for your loss of your Dad to Lung Cancer. If you are not comfortable talking with other's just now you may be able to talk one to one with a grief counsellor. It is so important to express one's grief and cry all you can. this is very healing and helps the healing process. Things change day by day and you may in time feel comfortable expressing yourself on this site. As you read other posts you will also find great comfort knowing you are not alone with your grief. I lost my husband of 44yrs. 17 months ago to Lung cancer caused by working with Asbestos. A deadly material used in the workplace and not known then as dangerous. The cancer tumour takes 40yrs. to develop and is always terminal. I nursed my husband for 3yrs.39days. I know how painful it is to watch someone you love die a slow painful death. I also cannot get out of my mind those memories of suffering, and the haunting look in my husband's eyes that spoke volumes to me and left me helpless to take away his pain and sorrow over knowing he was going to die. TAKE ONLY ONE DAY AT A TIME!. This is how I got through 17 months. It helped. Then NURTURE yourself. By taking great care of yourself and putting special things in your life each day to make yourself feel better. Buy flowers or anything you like that makes you happy. then build this up each day. You will be amazed at how this care can help you through what is the worst experience of life. DEATH is so hard on the body, emotions, and mind. Right to our core we are bruised and broken for a long time. But the care you give yourself now will pay off later. Like ointment on your wounds. I wish you better days ahead.

Oct 08, 2013
When You're Ready
by: Debra

I lost my dad to lung cancer as well. It will be one year in November. He was my rock. I have been emotionally fragile throughout the whole grieving process. I understand your pain and should you need a listening ear, just let me know. It is a long journey back and no one should have to go it alone. I miss my dad terribly and I dread the fast approaching holiday season. God bless and comfort you.

Oct 08, 2013
Lost My Dad
by: Anonymous

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my father too, in January. He died suddenly and we were very, very close. This past year has been a blur to me, and my emotions are still raw. Be kind to yourself, and take things slowly. Talk when you are ready. This website is a wonderful place to come for support - you can post your feelings here and everybody understands what you are going through. We are all part of this horrible club. I hope you find peace as you start to heal. Barb

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