Lost my daddy a month before my wedding

by Amanda Hinton



My daddy passed away a little over a week ago, on February 24, 2012 at the young age of 49. He had a massive heart attack. Daddy and I had a unique relationship as he and my mom were divorced for almost 20 years. He had since remarried and they have two children. My daddy didn't reach out to me much, but we did see eachother every month or so and texted here and there. I have a lot of bitterness towards him for many reasons, but since I got engaged in September, Daddy and I were talking more and getting closer. He loved my fiance' and was very excited about our wedding. He was going to give me away, and had picked a special song for our dance. I am getting married on March 24 and I am not excited anymore.. I don't even want to go to my own wedding. My fiance' is supportive but it hurts him that I am not looking forward to our special day. I have a million emotions.. I am afraid I haven't dealt with the reality yet.. I am afraid it will hit me as I walk down the aisle without him.

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Mar 25, 2012
I am so sorry
by: Randi Menard

I am going through the same situation. My dad just recently passed away on February 12th and I too had picked a song for my dad and I to dance to at my October wedding. I am having sooo much trouble believing that this is just a bad dream and I have not woken up. No words can make you feel better about the situation. I am struggling with going on with my wedding plans at the moment tooooo........he was my heart and now it is just shattered into a million pieces. Don't know if its fair to give that damaged heart away at the moment.

Mar 07, 2012
I just want to give you a hug
by: Maureen

I lost my Dad February 22,2012 but I am 42 and my Dad was 80. Still hurts. But this is about you. You need to spend some time every day thinking about this so you can cope on your wedding day and so you feel in your heart that your father would very much want you to have a wonderful day. From what you write, your father would want you to have a wonderful life with your new husband. Honor your father some way between now and your wedding and on your wedding day. Plant a tree? Adopt a pet? Volunteer to help a child or babysit for a neighbor but do it for free and in honor of your Dad. Honor your father by talking about all the wonderful things are you going to do with your fiance and what your life will look like. Promise to open your doors to connect with people and make your life rich. Make your life rich with friends and family and something that your Dad would have been so proud of. I am so sorry for your loss. You will always have your Dad in your heart.

Mar 06, 2012
in spirit
by: Anonymous

you know your dad might be with you but i would say he will beside you on your big day in spirit.
try and get comfort from that. im so sorry im grieving myself and i really know what your going through

Mar 05, 2012
You Dad Will Be There
by: TrishJ

I'm so very sorry for your loss. My husband passed away on December 3, 2010. My daughter was married last October. I spent most of the day trying to keep from breaking down.
My friend and I made a pictorial dvd of my husband-many pictures of he and my daughter together. The dvd was played before my son walked her down the aisle. It was a bittersweet day but somehow we all made it through.
My new son-in-law was probably the most emotional. He had formed a great bond with my husband. Your wedding day is the most important day of your life. You are becoming one with your fiance. Your dad would want you to be happy. For you dad's sake try to be happy. He will always be with you. If he could change things he would be there for you. It wasn't his choice.
God bless. I hope everything goes well on your special day. Your dad will be there.

Mar 05, 2012
Take your time..
by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry about the loss of your dad. I just lost mine on Feb.10,2012..he was only 55 and was cremated 9 days later on my 27th birthday. We were so close..we still lived together and my twin sister and I took care of him. He had emphysema..but he didn't show it until a few months ago. Now that he's gone, my boyfriend moved in with us to help out with things. He's so excited and he wants to get married but I just don't feel that way now. All I want to do is curl up in a ball and cry about my dad. The only advice I can give is to cry any time you need to and talk to him...with time your fiance will understand. If possible..postpone the wedding to a later date. You should be allowed to grieve as long as you need to. If you can't postpone, try to enjoy it knowing your dad is there with you and I'm sure he would be so happy for you.

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