Lost my daddy last night and I don't even know how to go on now...

by Kelly V

I stumbled upon this site because I lost my daddy just last night....Like so many of you, my heart is broken and I am in so much more pain than I could have imagined. I am only 25 and it isn't fair that I have to go through this so young....I am too young for this and it just doesn't feel right! He died of lung cancer so most everyone was prepared for it....except me. I never faced it or gave up hope. It kills me because he was 7 hours away and as soon as I heard he may not make it through the night, I jumped in my car to go see him and say goodbye.....but I didn't make it in time and that will haunt me forever. I miss him SO much...in a way that I can't begin to describe....I think my older brother is taking it better than me because he has been seeing it coming......I don't know how to go on with life...My heart is broken and I miss him SO SO much!!!! :'(

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Mar 12, 2013
by: Anonymous

Gosh I so understand your loss and how you don't feel like you can go on. I felt the same way…. I hate all the cliches and I hated all the advice people would give. All I can say is after two years I needed counselling as the grief would not ease. The grief book from this organization is perfect….it is simple stages and simple things that make a difference, you will get you through this period of time so look after you. Love you…. I get my good traits from my dad and my counsellor said it was nice that I remembered that.

I miss him so much and I miss so much of my life that was good. I am not in such a dark place now. and looking at the responses you have got to your message proves that people care for you even though they don't know you.

You will get you through so don't give up on you…

Jan 26, 2013
Lost my daddy last night and I don't evern know hoe to go on now....
by: Doreen U.K.

Kelly go and see a grief counsellor who is trained and skilled to support you in your loss and sorrow over your father's death. Don't handle this by yourself. We all need help in our grief. I was in DENIAL and my husband died of lung cancer and It has taken me over 8 months to finally accept he is gone and not coming back. You are young at 25yrs. to lose a father. And there are children younger who lose a parent or both parents and my heart goes out to them also. but it is a fact of life. Death visits us all and is no respector of age. PAINFULL. Yes. Like nothing we will ever know. Only time will help us to move forward from our grief. I am sorry for your loss. You will find your way back in life but it will take some time for this to happen. Grieving is a long process.

Jan 24, 2013
Felt your pain 17 years ago
by: Jessica

I'm very sorry to hear about your fathers. I stubbled on this site as I was just googling "grieving a dad not being at your wedding" as that's what I'm dealing with right now. My dad died 17 years ago, so I saw your post and wanted to write you to say that it will get better, easier and your life will go on, I promise. Not a single day goes by that I don't think of my dad...I'm sure the same will be for you. Your dad knew that you were trying to get to him before he passed, so don't feel guilty for not being there...he wouldn't want you to feel that pain. The memories you have of him will last the rest of your life and believe me, he will be around you forever. I have felt my dad (even today when I was sad that he won't be there to walk me down the aisle, something happened and I KNOW it was him trying to show me that he's around and listening to me!). Take your time to heal but let go of the guilt you are carrying. Sending you and your family strength at this time. Jessica

Jan 24, 2013
i understand completely
by: byron

hello kelly, i lost my that oct 24, 2012, i took a week from my job to be with him and say good bye, one monday i got to get back to work, i didn't want to, buy everybody convinced me to go, that thay i received a call 20 minutes before 5 pm, to told me that he died, i didn't say goodbye and i will never forgive myself.

Jan 22, 2013
i feel your pain
by: andy

hi kelly-i lost my dad dec 25,2012 and know what you are going through-the finality of never seeing your dad is a harsh reality of life. all i can say is i am trying as you should to honor your father by doing good for someone and also your mother is now yiur most important focus-death happens every single day-but we never expect it to happen to us-time and only time will make it easier for us to cope with this loss. every day i miss my dad-dont feel guilty about not making it to say goodby-as long as you knew and your dad knew in your hearts you loved each other-that is what counts. I was supposed to visit my dad on thursday dec 27,but he died on dec 25. do good in your life and your family must me your imdediate focus-my thoughts are with you-it will be a month on jan 25 and thi sis all stil lin a fog-time and only time will help .

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