lost my dearest dearest love

by Thomas j. buckley
(englewood colorado)

my bab in 1999

my bab in 1999

Dan and my self Thomas were almost to together 21 years . 3 1/2 years ago he had a heart attack and the got pml . Was unable to work, i stopped working to care for him, then we had hospice. April 7th, he died. Things were not said that i feel needed to be said. Not only the loss of my partner and best friend, i lost so many words. I hurt so very badly, I am lost.

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May 18, 2010
I understand
by: Rodney

I lost the love of my life Robert, on December 5th 2007 to a rare form of Leukemia. I suffered for many months filled with tears, anger, sadness, guilt and all the other emotions that go with grief. At the time I thought I would never be able to move on.

"How do I ever get rid of his clothes?" That was my 1st step. A friend came over and we packed up Robert's clothes (many matching sets with mine) and took them to the local thrift shop. Every day I woke up I embraced the grief process just as this site lays it out for us.

I let things go, bills, the house, friends. But know I am on track again. I am dating again and very serious. I have hired a financial expert to help with that. I have cleaned up the house to sell it. All is going well.

Don't rush the process, baby. Cry when you feel it no matter where you are. When someone tries to push you on to "get over it" let them know where you are. They don't understand because they have never felt the pain you are feeling. Life will get easier, I promise. Let the process happen. Love and hugs to you. Rodney

May 10, 2010
Your true love
by: Down Under

Thomas, condolences on the loss of your true love Dan. If things are needed to be said Thomas, do not be afraid to say them. He can hear you, you just can't see or hear him. Dan's around, just in a different source. The strong bond that held you two together will get you through the darkest hours. Keep those happy memories alive in your heart. Best Wishes.

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