Lost my Father to cancer

by Mellissa
(Farmington Hills, Mi)

I lost my Dad and best friend to Cancer this past month. My dad was a friend and hero to many, he was a positive spirited human who was talked highly of preceding and after his death. He first found he had cancer in 2011, January, I will never forget that phone call. He had a couple of drinks to numb the pain I think, a gin and tonic. I was on a walk by myself and he told how he had discovered the lump, and that they tested, and indeed it was cancer. They wanted to start radiation immediately. My dad was a marine so he was treated at the VA. Never once complained, heck I think he was more positive through cancer than most people are with the most gifted of lives..He went into remission that fall. The following spring he fell down in the middle of the night and was rushed to the hospital. The Neuro-surgeons discovered Multi-forme Glioblastoma (Multiple brain tumor) and other tumors littering his body. The cancer had come back and took him rapidly. They gave him three months, and he passed within 3. He went from happy and joking/walking, to bed rest on morphine with hospice, which took his spirit and soul away.... The past year has been excruciating, and even more so for him. I will miss you forever Dad, until we meet again someday. It is lonely here without you. Love you.

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Aug 27, 2012
I'm losing my Dad to GBM right now.
by: Anonymous

My Dad has been battling stage 4 brain cancer for a little over a year now. He has been in the VA hospital for a few months now and was just moved into hospice. The cancer has spread to his bones and is going throughout the rest of his body. They say he will only live another week or so. It's horrible seeing him so confused. It's really like I'm going to lose him twice. I'm not ready to say goodbye. We have gotten so close ever since he was diagnosed, so it's killing me losing him. A young woman is never ready to lose her father...

Aug 12, 2012
My Dad, My Hero
by: Lyndy

I Just lost my father July 27th to a long 16 months battle with cancer. When my dad was diagnosed it was stage 4, he said to me "It is What It is" My dad went for surgery and it could not be done, as it was gone too far. My Mom & I waited after surgery. The Dr. said we can only give him quality of life. Awakening with the Osty Bag and the news, he said "It is what it is". My father took pill form chemo, it did not work.He moved my mom & himself to another city, as he knew mom loved it there. My dad now took inter venous chemo 10 rounds & fought . He said as he was fading away, "It is what it is" My Mom looked after my Dad at home for months, what an Angel strong Lady she is, I helped my mom with Dad at home and then it was no longer possible for mom and the nurses to care, so he resided in Hospital, 57 years of marriage my mom spent with Dad July 23rd, treats went to all the staff, the decline was very fast, On the Thursday when mom & I went to see him as we did for 10 or more days, he motioned to me, and I held his hand,He looked at me and I told him everything was ok, mom was ok

Aug 08, 2012
Thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you for the kind words...taking it day by day...

Aug 08, 2012
by: Anonymous

My heart goes out to you, I have just very recently lost my dad to cancer and he sounds exactly like your dad so I had to comment. He was positive and high spirited throughout his treatment, he was so brave and strong as I imagine your dad being a marine also was. I hope you are coping and have support around you as this is the hardest thing as human beings we have to go through. I keep getting told that it never goes away but it gets a little better each day and you learn to live with it. I am trying to be brave and strong like my dad and get through this awful time as you will be also. They are resting now and at peace. Look after yourself.

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