lost my husband kev aged 49

I lost my husband and my childrens dad on 31st may 2013 it was very sudden and very sad he felt ill on sunday the 26th and thought he had food poisoning .
sunday night he became very ill and i phoned for a ambulance 25 minutes it took to arrive and then when we got to hospital they found my husband had sepsis of the blood and put him in a induced coma all his organs failed and he was put on life support he was fighting for 4days but lost his fight on the Friday my world has been totally changed my children are age 22 and 20
and to lose their dad so young and quickly and Ive lost my soul mate and friend and lover its hard to want to carry on to make things even harder to bear they don't know what caused his sepsis just said its very rare

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Jul 09, 2013
I LOST MY HUSBAND MAY 27 2013, age 46
by: Anonymous

My husband Neil died May 27, 2013 at the age of 46, and I still don't know why. He started out with a sinus infection.
We had been to the emergency room twice and they never admitted him to the hospital.
We have a 20 month old son who will never know his Daddy. I don't want to go on, but know that I have to do my best for our little boy. It is so hard.

Jun 26, 2013
lost my husband kev aged 49
by: silver

I lost my husband to sepsis also.He had emphysema,got pneumonia and that turned septic.It killed his kidneys and when they tried dialysis it began killing his heart.He only had 43% of his lungs left anyway and had lost down to 110# by the time he was put in ICU.They said that with kidney failure he only had a matter of a day or two.Even if his kidneys began to function again the damage was done to his heart.It was only functioning at 30%.I did the hardest thing I have ever done...I let him go.He has been gone two yrs on May 29,2013.I still cry often though not as hard as I used to.I still miss him terribly.We were married 33 yrs and 1 week.I, like most of us,thought we would grow old together.I thought we would have "our time" when we retired.The kids were grown and gone but he died before I reached 62.NO US time.I totally understand how you feel.The only thing I can say is that it does get easier.It will never go away.Our "soul-mate" is gone.We are left alone to carry on.Sometimes I feel so alone,even in a crowd.I don't know what GOD has planned for me.Will there be another love in my life.I don't know.I do know I will never love someone with the intensity I loved my husband.My faith in GOD is what has sustained me the most.I write poetry and that helps some.I'm able to get my deepest feelings out.Others do this also.Some write a journal.The big thing is to talk about him.Keep those memories alive.Keep him alive.I can't be with you so I send you some hugs for when you need them.I'll keep you in my prayers.GOD send you strength and peace

Jun 26, 2013
lost my husband kev aged 49
by: Doreen U.K.

I am sorry for your loss of your husband to a sudden death. This will be your hardest battle coping with grief and loss of a husband at such a young age.
I lost my husband of 44yrs. to cancer 14 months ago and it is the hardest grief I can bear from losing a loved one. The cancer journey was long and hard and a slow death from the one I loved.
Your days of grief will only become easier with good supportive family and friends. I would never have coped had I not had this support when I needed it. It has diminished now and so I am feeling the rawness of LONLINESS. I feel as if I have been thrust into a new world where everything seems strange and distant and I am trying to find my way back to the world I was in.
Hard for us widows now trying to forge out a new life for ourselves.
Don't try too hard to get over your grief. It is something we have to go through and will take a lot of time. We can only take one day at a time. Don't look too far ahead as TIME will swallow you up and make the journey that much longer. Your children are at an age when they will be forging out their own life and this will make you feel more isolated with your grief. You will feel the urge to hold onto them for comfort. I did this. I still feel anxious when my daughter has to go to bed early so she can get up for work in the morning. I am left sitting alone in the evening into the night and then go to bed only to rise and do it all over again. This is the difficult part of life now for many of us. Even when we make changes to our life it will never be quite fulfilling. Our husband/life partner is what made the difference to life, so how can it ever get better.
In time you will find your way back into life. I have to live with this Hope otherwise I would not be able to get through each day. It is painful to observe life going on around us as if nothing is disturbed in other people's lives, only ours. I often feel like stopping the world and getting off. I hope that you get the support you need to help make this grief journey easier. It does help. May God comfort you in your sorrow and grief.

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