Lost my mom, our family dog, my grandma and now my dad in 8 months........
I'm devastated and don't know how to keep going forward in a positive way. I have never experienced grief before like this. My story: my mom would come to town every month to visit us and my aging grandma who was in an assisted living facility. Mom stayed with us and her and I were like best friends. Her plan was to finish her lease and move to our town summer 2014. She came in January 2014 for her usual monthly visit, but caught bronchitis and was very sick with it so she went home a few days early. Then I caught it as well. Moms was already well on her way to recovery.
I had gone to the dr Friday night after work and was very sick. Mom called me Saturday morning / early afternoon to check on me and make sure I was taking care of myself. She said she'd call me back as she got another phone call. This was typical and no worries. I fell asleep on and off and realized quite a bit of time had passed that I hadn't got called back. I tried calling her but no answer......again I'm assuming she may be in bath or something. Pretty soon after multiple calls I start worrying and call stepdad who was right down the street from her. They were separated. He finally got worried himself and walked over.
She had collapsed and he called 911. She had been there awhile. The medics came and took her to one of the best hospitals and I started my journey over there. It's a five hour trip. This was a dark cold February night. By the time I arrived all family was in and she was only being kept alive for me to get there. She had had a massive stroke and was brain dead. I was devastated!!!! My three kids were devastated!!!! Life would not ever be the same without my mom, my best friend.
Mom passed away 2-2-2014
I was the one who had to break the news to grandma. Grandma had a very difficult time accepting this. She had a small form of dementia. Within 3 weeks of moms death grandma had gone in a fast dementia down spin. She was completely unable to care for herself anymore and had to be moved into a nursing facility. I had to do this and my heart was breaking.
From march on grandmas health deteriorated with many small strokes, very bad dementia etc. I was spending 4-5 evenings there feeding and comforting her. She would sometimes remember moms death and cry and scream for her.
My dad lived in the same town as I did and I was close to him....so were my boys. With all that was going on with mom and so busy with grandma I felt like I hadn't gotten to see him as much as I would have liked. August 3 my dad fell off a ladder trying to cut a tree down and he shattered his foot and broke his hip. He had massive surgery. I spent my next week between caring for Gma and visiting him.
We also had a sick dog......during this time she became more ill and had to be put down. This was very hard and hard to see the pain my kids felt with it too.
Dad was having many complications after surgery with his heart and then lungs. He developed ARDS and never got out of the hospital. 17 days ago he was put on a ventilator.
Then a week after that grandma passed away. On august 31 2014
My dad's kidneys failed and he was now on dialysis.
Dad passed away 9-9-2014
I have my dad's funeral on the 17th and grandmas on the 20th. I feel so alone and devastated. I'm still grieving my mom very much. How do I go on and how do I help my kids.....