Lost my older brother

by Anon

My older brother passed away 4/3/12. He was only 24. Two months before he was supposed to get married. I love him very much, and miss him a lot. He got into a car accident, and after a month in a coma, he died due to a serious brain injury that made him completely brain damaged. His funeral was the first I went to. He was ten years older than me, and I now realize that one day I am going to be older than him. He won't see me grow up, or graduate high school. He told me if he had a daughter he would want her to look like me. He told me I was going to be an aunt within the next ten years. Now that will never happen. I will never know what it would be like to have a niece or nephew. I don't know anyone who's lost a sibling before, so I feel like the only one. A lot of people I know have older brothers and they keep talking about them, and I just get reminded that mine isn't here. I have never missed someone so much before. I see people on their fifties with their whole family still alive, and here I am at 15 grieving such an unexpected loss. I feel so alone. I expected maybe my parents, but not my brother. When everyone keeps talking about their big brother or nephew, I feel like they're rubbing it in my face.

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Aug 06, 2012
I know how you feel
by: Anonymous

I know how you feel I am 15 and I lost my 17 year old brother about a month ago in a car accident, July 5th 2012. It sucks not having him with me anymore. We were together almost every day of my life, now it feels like a pice of me is missing and I cant find it. I miss him every day. I hope that you can find your way though the hard times.

Aug 04, 2012
Lost my older brother
by: Doreen U.K.

Dear Anon I am sorry for your loss of your older brother. You are so young to lose a sibling. It is hard for many adults going through grief and you are a very young adult having to face this awful pain of grief. If you have any difficulty in grieving your loss see a bereavement counsellor to help you cope with your loss. You say it is the first loss and funeral for you and it will be hard for you to come to terms with losing your brother in the days and weeks ahead. It has been some 5 months and you will be wondering how long your grief will last. It is different for everyone. Take one day at a time. That is all we can cope with. In life we sometimes have to plan ahead with the hope we will see tomorrow. When a death happens in our family we realise how fragile life is from now on. We have to enjoy life. We can't go through life thinking about death as it would limit our living. But when death happens we are thrown into another realm. We can't even imagine what it is like. The sadness is not having any nieces or nephews to carry on the family line. Your parents must be in deep sorrow. Losing a child is just the worst experience ever. Don't suffer in silence. Talk to someone about how you are feeling. Get help if you need it.

Aug 03, 2012
I'm sorry
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry for your horrible loss. It's not fair and I feel your pain. Hang in there! Lean on your parents!

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