Lost my spouse and true love

by Lisa
(Lawrenceville, NJ)

I found out last June that I have cancer. Two weeks later my husband died. We went to our house in Maine on June 28th and he died three hours later. He choked during dinner and then had a heart attack and I was all by myself with him and I could not save him. When we found out that I had cancer, he told me that if he could take the cancer from me he would, and if he could not fight it himself he would die for me....I just keep thinking about that. He was only 54 years old, the absolute love of my life and my very best friend. My cancer is going away but it's not worth it without him.

Comments for Lost my spouse and true love

Click here to add your own comments

Jul 18, 2010
Grief has it's own agenda to follow
by: Anonymous

I lost the love of my life March 20, 2010. He was diagnosed with cancer Nov. 6 2009. We tried to battle through the chemo and related issues. He didn't talk much after November. Sometimes we had hope. I didn't leave his side. Slept in the hospital with him and now he's gone forever. My heart is broken. I can go to work and laugh and pass the time, but feel like the pieces were not put back together right. I truly know how you and the others feel. I know these feelings will modify in time as I've been through this before. Life goes on. We will laugh and love again in the future, but not now.

May 22, 2010
Thank You
by: Lost My Sopuse and True Love

Thank you to all who commented to me...life now is hard with out my best friend,,,it never gets better. Am feeling good as far as my cancer goes.

Mar 15, 2010
For Lisa
by: Mariana

I am very sorry for your loss. My heart really goes out to you.I am glad the cancer is going away and you are getting better.

I truly believe that time is a great healer and faith in God for comfort.

I am going through the loss of my husband too and I can tell you it has not been easy. I miss him every minute of each day. I just keep going. Sometimes I am not sure I can make it but with each passing day I am progressing some although there are setbacks, which is natural.

Feel free to post your feelings as there are a lot of caring people on this board to listen. God bless you.

Mar 14, 2010
TO LISA MY SYMPATHY
by: Anonymous

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. IN A WAY YOU SUFFERED TWO LOSSES. YOUR HEALTH AND YOUR HUSBAND. PRAYERS, LOVE, AND BLESSINGS TO YOU.

Mar 14, 2010
TO ROSE LOSS OF HUSBAND
by: Anonymous

DEAR ROSE, WHAT A WONDERFUL TRIBUTE TO YOUR LATE HUSBAND. GOD WORKS IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS. I SEND MY LOVE AND SYMPATHY TO YOU.

Mar 14, 2010
Lost my spouse and true love
by: Rose

I know what you mean. My husband, just 63, died literally at my feet the morning of October 20, 2009. He wasn't feeling well (had a long history of diabetes and heart disease) and told me he was going to pass out. And down he went at my feet. I felt so helpless--911 instructed me on giving chest compressions, but I wasn't strong enough to help him.

I met him when I was 14 and he was 16. My only love, the husband I adored. I found that bereavement classes, held by our local hospital, do help you get through the grieving. My blog is entitled, "Too Sudden; Too Soon" if you want to look it up. I just wake up every morning, get through the day and talk to my husband.

Mar 14, 2010
My sympathy
by: Anonymous

I feel for you, as I too lost my beloved husband of 29 years 3 months Ago. He was diagnosed on 9. Nov 2009 with pancreatic cancer; less than 1 month later he died. I am a mess. Did not have time to accept this or even get to say goodbye properly. Now I am faced with all the legal and financial battles which are wearing me down.

I miss him so very much, life will never be the same. I wish you every success as you battle your own cancer and hope that you're a survivor! Take care.

Mar 12, 2010
My sympathy
by: Anonymous

Lisa;
Having just lost the love of my life, my husband, my soul mate, on January 13, 2010- 8 weeks 2 days.

He was diagnosed with Glioblastoma Brain Cancer in Sept. 08. After a year of treatment we were told nothing more could be done, that a new tumor showed up on his MRI. He walked in and out of the Dr. office on 12/8/09. He was in a wheelchair by Christmas Eve, Hospice on January 6 and at the end he could not speak, walk, he was incontinent, and finally could no longer swallow. It is a recurring nightmare for me.

I feel sorry for all spouses that are left behind. There are all the what ifs, why me, now whats. It is a dark journey. I am glad to hear you cancer is under control, so that some day you can have another chance to live, even a life with a empty space in your heart. Peace

Click here to add your own comments

Return to Lost Spouse/ True Love.

[?]Subscribe To This Site
  • XML RSS
  • follow us in feedly
  • Add to My Yahoo!
  • Add to My MSN
  • Subscribe with Bloglines

RSS Feed Widget
->


 POPULAR
  RESOURCES


Tap into the compassion, support and wisdom of the

GRIEF CLUB


Essential Healing Guide

Grief Relief
Program

Free Griefwork
E-Course

Free Stress
Management
E-Course



SBI Video Tour!