Lost my wife my everything

by Adrian Geary
(New Smyrna Beach, FL)

I lost my wife of 3 years on May 17, 2012 to Small cell cervical cancer. We had gone through several hospitals and back again before it was even diagnosed. It was stage 3 by the time it was diagnosed. together with her mom and dad we spent almost every night by her bed side in the hospital. She came home after her first set of treatments back never really got better and we took her to the ER and she never really came back to us. She was my everything she waited for me to come along and we wanted a life together. she was 32 when she died and I am 36. I feel so alone and unsure of what each day will bring. I want to go on but it is so hard.

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Jun 03, 2012
In time
by: Michael

Mr.Geary, Watching a loved one pass is a horrific thing especially someone so young. I know you have heard this before. But you must believe me when I say It does (albeit slowly and painfully) gets better.
Hang in there man.

Jun 02, 2012
Lost your everything
by: M Mack


You will go on and must realize it is still very early in your grief. Your beautiful wife is at peace and loves you still. Her pain is gone and she is in a beautiful place. It helps your grief process to keep her memory alive, write to her, tell her you love and miss her. The days, weeks and months that follow can be harsh but you must pas through them in order to get to a comfort zone. Take care of you, pray for strength and believe she is with you in spirit. Gods blessings and know you are not alone. We all hear you and understand your pain.

May 31, 2012
your loss
by: Judith in California

Dear Adrian, I am so sorry for your much too soon loss of your wife. It's going to be a rough road this grieving journey you're on. It's frought with so many ups and dwns and it tosses you from one emotion to another all in a instant. Please grieve as much and as hard as you feel and don't hold back for it's the only way you can reach the final acceptance and peaceful resolution of her passing.

My heart is touched when you, as a young man, speak so faithfully loving about her.

Please keep God in your life and pray to him for the strentgh to honor your wife's passing by living a good life in your new normal.

It's been 21 months for me and I cry less but still love and miss my husband terrbly. But I'm at peace knowing he isn't suffering anymore . His suffering in life iwas worse for me than me suffering in his death. Of course I was heartbroken and the empty place in my heart will always be there for him.

Visit here often as you feel like .

May God watch over you and help you heal.

May 30, 2012
by: paul

although my wife did not die of a disease, she did did suddently and unexpectedly.
My heart is broken and my life is just about over. I go thru the motions of living but I am so lonely and unhappy.37 years married and I never had a chance to say goodbye
I say why but no one can really answer that question

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