Lost Nearly Everything

by Anthony

I am 36, and a month ago, my father passed away on March 15 in his apartment. A week prior to his passing I promised him I would make his favorite corned beef and cabbage dinner. That was the last time I saw him and I at least got to say I loved him. 4 Days later on March 19 my Grandfather passed away. His unfortunate passing was expected, but my Grandfather was a proud Marine, and a huge father figure toward me especially since my parents were divorced. A week later the family dog passed away, and now our family cat is going. My girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago and my rent was raised to a much larger amount than expected :) The staggering amount of loss has prevented me from really focusing on any one thing. I just find it very crazy that so much has been lost in as little as 3 months into the new year. I know I will get through it, and I know there are other people less fortunate, but man!

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Apr 28, 2013
lost alot in less than a year
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry you lost people that you love very much. I know that
is really alot. you see Anthony I just lost my son march 15 like your
dad I feel what you are feeling I wish I could be near you and give
you a big hug. I am grieving just like you, but we have to let out your grief, If you want to cry ,scream at the whole it's ok. you
must not hold in you grieve, for it is in grieving that we can heal
it might take a long time, but it is the only way to heal. You could also write a journal when your feeling so bad. I'm telling you it really does heip. So please again anthony, try what I do and you'll
see the difference. May God be by your side when you are feeling
so empty.inside.

Apr 27, 2013
Lost Nearly Everything
by: Doreen U.K.

Anthony I am sorry for your loss of your Dad, grandfather, dog, cat dying, and your loss of relationship with your girlfriend. You have a lot of losses to cope with in such a short time on top of each other. Don't compare this to others being worse off than you. In life we will always have people going through worse problems. BUT. You have the right to have your losses validated, supported, and respected.
You may benefit from seeing a grief counsellor who will help you work through each loss and have a chance to grieve these losses in the way you need to do. In time you may feel that everything is all piling up and things will get worse, if you do nothing.
We know that in life many losses we will have to experience and deal with, but when they come in rapid succession they can be overwhelming. One day you may wake up and wonder why you feel depressed. You can also keep a journal and write out all your emotional feelings and so get things out of your system this way.
I don't know why relationships are threatened when you least expect this and don't need it.
My son's Ex partner was such a good support to him and during the time his dad died and he was struggling she broke away from him and didn't support him anymore. The timing was wrong, and worked against him. Take time out to try and process your loss and don't make too many decisions right now. Priortize what you will tackle first and give yourself time to put a plan together about how you will go through each day. When you have a broken heart Life will slow down and leave you with a lack of motivation to do anything. This is normal and most of us feel this way. I hope you will be supported in your grief. It does help and make a difference to us moving forward better. Only do what you can, when you want to do it. Don't push yourself too hard. You will soon be able to find your way through your losses and get your life back. But it will take time.

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