Lost the love of my live after 32 years of marriage

by Lori
(Edmond Oklahoma)

On November 17th 2013 I lost the love of my life. He was never sick a day in his live. I just don't know what I am going to do. We moved to Oklahoma in 2004 to be with our Grandkids. So for the past 10 years its been me and Larry. I have a disability so I cant work. So for the past ten years all I knew was my husband and kids.
I have no friends. I don't know anyone.

I am so lost. I am just looking for some one to talk to that knows what I am going through. I don't know what or where to go. I am so lost. I am not a needing person, I just need a direction on what to do or try. I know everyone said to go to church. I do pray to God everyday.

I would just love someone to talk to.

So if this is you please email me at loriyurich2000@yahoo.com

I look forward to hearing from you.

Thank you for any help you can give me

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May 18, 2014
Lost Husband after 42yrs. I don't know How I can go on in life without him.
by: Doreen UK

Arlene I am so sorry for your loss of your husband of 42yrs. None of us knows how bad the pain of losing a spouse feels like till it happens and it is the worse pain ever to live and deal with. Many of us on this site know what you are going through and will be here to support you for as long as you need this. Grief is such that we feel as if we can't go on in life anymore. We feel like screaming out for help for this pain. The best way forward is ONE DAY AT A TIME. Which I learned on this site.
I lost my husband of 44yrs. 2yrs. ago to a deadly cancer. He suffered great pain for 3yrs.39days. I was his primary carer. It was hard watching the man I loved die slowly in terrible pain, looking on helpless and there was nothing I could do to save him. I could not function for the first 6 months. I took to the couch and could not move. My grief was unbearable. I slowly nurtured myself back from grief with the help of TV. I thought life wouldn't get better. But it does so very slowly. No two grief's are the same and you will get through it better, with good family support. If you find yourself struggling you could use the services of a grief counsellor who is trained to support one who is finding it difficult to move forward.
I also had God in my life and it was to God I reached out for support, and strength to get through the worse experience in my life. 2yrs. on I still can't believe he is not coming back home. I miss him so much. This is pure h--l. I had the most amazing support from my family and this is how I got through the worst early days of grief. This support has now gone and everyone moved on with their lives. But I am still hurting. Reach out to God to help carry you through these worst days and months ahead. I still have to lean heavily on God to carry me through these difficult days of being a widow. Only God can help us deal with this burden of grief and pain. Please write back if you need to and know that all on this site are with you and support you. May God be with you and comfort you and give you His Peace.

May 18, 2014
lost husband after 42 yrs. i dont no how how i can go on with life.
by: arlene

im so lost since my husband past i need help,i dont know how to go on without him.please help me.

Apr 01, 2014
Lost the love of my life.
by: Anonymous

I can so understand how each of you feel as I lost my husband on 12-1-13. We were married 51 years and we have known one another since we were in our teens. I have always been a strong person, but this is the hardest walk I have ever made. Today is 4 months - the pain is so real that my heart aches - we had two sons and they are still grieving also - I know that everyone experiences grief in their unique way - it seems that 50% of me is empty - I have caring family and I have really not been alone but I do not mind being alone - even with people around the moments hit me - it is just like the grief comes over me in giant waves and I just hold on to God and ask for his peace. I pray for you that are going through this experience. I do not know what I would do if I did not have my family and friends and always God.

Apr 01, 2014
Sympathy and hope.
by: Lawrence

Your pain, agony and despair screams out to us all on this web site who have also lost a beloved husband, wife or parent and we are crying with you and for ourselves with the pain we are all in.
There are no words to make your grief any easier, I only wish there were, there is absolutely nothing to compare it to, never in your life could you have imagined life could seem so black and hopeless, and yet, although you won’t believe me, as the months pass, the crying will become that bit less and a smile occasionally will appear.
I know because I lost a very precious wife and sweetheart on Christmas Day 2012 and like you I was in acute misery, after all we had been together for seventy years in a very passionate marriage,from young teenagers to aged pensioners and although we knew that someday one of us would go, the way she died, mid-sentence in the blink of an eye was wonderful for her, but agony for her family as were all together to have Christmas Lunch, turkey was in the oven, table laid..
We dashed to the nearest hospital in an ambulance as the medics did CPR to try and get her heart beating again, but when we arrived the waiting consultant told me gently that if they got it beating she would be brain dead and I told them to stop the CPR and let her die,( a decision that will haunt me forever, what if they were wrong)..
I closed her eyes and kissed her goodbye for the last time on her deathbed and thanked her for a wonderful seventy years. I saw her take her last breath and have been heartbroken ever since.
Yet, here I am offering you sympathy and hope, knowing that you will get through it battered and bruised like the rest of us and start living again.
I am eighty-five years old and still having violin lessons and writing novels and stories for my grandchildren and I serenade her every evening on the organ and play all her favorite songs, I do so hope she can hear me.
So, life goes on, and if I may I would like to send you some of my novels to read if just to take your mind off your misery, you can always press the DELETE button, but they are pleasant to read no violence or swearing, and should make you smile and if I can do that all my writing has been worthwhile
Look after yourself because you are very precious to your children and grandchildren..
With deepest sympathy.

Apr 01, 2014
The Lord is my strength
by: Anonymous

Hi there Lori, I am sorry for your loss. Listen I am writing to you, because the date of your husbands lost is my anniversary to my husband, would have been 14 yrs. married, anyway my husband died of CANCER in the blood aka Leukemia, but when I saw that date 11-17-14 reminded me of my husband, because we married 14 yrs. ago, and on this date exactly he also let me know to go put his ashes at sea with his brother who also was a veteran two tours in the Navy, but my husband was 1st class Airman in the Air Force, anyway I know exactly your pain, You don't mention what he died of, but just to let you know, don't despair, the Lord your savior is there, have Faith, Hope, and courage to go forward, now you got to have Hope so you can have Faith, trust me the Lord is my strength, and he never leaves us or forsake us. I will write soon. Take care and I live you with a prayer, that the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit who lives within us, will guide you through this hurdles. The Lord is my strength.

Mar 31, 2014
Lost the love of my life after 32 years of marriage.
by: Doreen UK

Lori I am so sorry for your loss of your husband of 32yrs. There is nothing worse than being left so isolated and alone with your grief. It is also more difficult when you have no supportive family or friends to help walk this road of grief with.
I lost my husband of 44yrs. 23 months ago to a deadly cancer. I nursed him for over 3yrs. before he died.
I know how hard it is for us all on this site trying to restructure our lives and not knowing where to start. It is hard to make friends because inside we are still hurting and just want to lock ourselves away where we can deal with this grief. It is a very difficult time to make friends. I just don't know when this will happen. I have 4 sisters, but they are living their own lives with their husbands and so they don't call as much now. My 2 Adult children are married and their lives are busy. I know I need to make my own life, but it is not easy.
Even though I feel sad for you. You expressed how I feel, and I feel less alone knowing I am not the only one feeling the isolation and aloneness. I will email you when I get tomorrow over with as it is a difficult busy day with repairs. I know people mean well when they tell you to go to Church. I am housebound with arthritis and can't get to church but I watch it on the TV God Channel so I do get Church come to me. I can also watch it on the Internet. Do what you feel is right for you. There is no right or wrong way to go through what we are facing and not a lot of people in our world understand how we feel unless they have experienced a loss like we have. Best wishes.

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