Lost Twice

by Cathy
(New Orleans, La. USA)

I gave my baby up for adoption when she was 9 mths old. . The police found me 20 years after her disappearance. Told me the adopted father is the primary suspect. He was on parole for breaking and entering with the intent to commit a sexual assault. He and his wife had a child of their own one year after his release. My daughter was 14 when the child was born, and went missing when she was 15.
The police told me the original investigation was botched. The adopted father who was on parole at the time of her disappearance told police, " She stole 100.00 and went looking for her birth mother, and he was never interviewed again. His wife and he have never been interviewed separately and to this day continue to live in the same township she vanished from.
The adopted father was once again charged with stalking and attempting to break into
the home of a woman he worked with. Police told me a rape kit was found in his shed. The adopted father lost his job, but never spent anytime in jail. He remains free to continue his
progression to serial murderer.
I drove from Fla to MI to see the detective and he stood me up. I was told that she had told her teacher that the adopted father had assaulted her. My daughter was taken to the police station. She was confronted by the adopted parents and recanted. Days later something else happened and she went to a youth center. Week later she vanished. All of this took place in 1989.
I have been in touch with the courts that handled the adoption. I was told by the now retired detective that the adopted father had lied on the adoption papers about his past. He had a criminal record when he and his wife adopted by daughter. I am waiting to hear from them before making my next move. The police claim they have no money left to continue the investigation. My poor baby who would be 37 this year goes back to the Cold Case files.
I have no faith in the system. I will not let that stop me. I will take this fight to my grave.

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Sep 09, 2011
You are in my prayers
by: Anonymous

Thank you for you kind words. I am in an emotional whirlwind. One moment I almost convince myself she is safe. My daughter is somewhere happy. Then the next moment it is what the detective told me. I am moving forward. I will not leave this be. I can tell you what some of what I am feeling. I have no trust or respect for the adoption system. No respect for the police in that county they knew she was in danger and did nothing about it. Every time in my life when I have needed help from a police officer they either showed up. I am angry and in the years to come if I can't move this investigation I will leave this country and never look back.

Sep 08, 2011
You are in my prayers...
by: Anonymous

I just read your post and can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is but you will be in my prayers. God Bless You. You are not alone.


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