Love at first sight

by Andrew
(Pennsburg, Pa)

A little over a week ago I met a woman and fell instantly in love with her, and the best part she did the same with me… We met on a popular web site dating service just as I was about to end my subscription… she picked me!!! The first date was in a very nice restaurant and we couldn’t take our eyes off each other as we made small talk… I began to tell her about my day, which included a rather bad trip to the hospital for blood work… When she asked me what the blood work was for I told her about my pending heart valve surgery. She looked almost devastated as she proceeded to tell me about her last boyfriend who suddenly died about 4 months earlier and said she wished I didn’t tell her about this, but I felt I needed to be honest and tell her. As the night went on we talk off and on about her loss and my surgery all the time feeling more and more attracted to each other. In the proceeding days we texted, talked on the phone and met when we could. Every now and then the conversation moved toward how fast our feelings were developing and the need to slow things down… I believe her loss is too great to allow her to start a new relationship, as she is not finished grieving her last boyfriend. I really do understand her grief and do not want to push her or force her into a relationship until she is ready, but I feel she is feeling guilty about moving forward. I am not in a hurry… I do want to help her… I do want her in my life and I believe she wants me in hers.