Lynn 32yrs of marriage 8/18/50 -2/26/2011 Death Watch

by brenda
(starke,fla usa)

Wow on May16.1979 I met this awesome Man at 21 yrs of age,Lynn was a Navy man and he loved the Sea.I had married early once before at 16 and had 2 children one is Christopher who died 23 months earlier then lynn.Well i saw him walk in the door and said this man would not want nothing to do with me.Lynn said he thought the same thing are 32yrs of marriage we had a son Shawn in 1980 did we have some hard times,made wrong decisions yes.He had the brain I as the dumb ass that came from the other side of the tracks.We moved a lot from him being in the navy.He loved boxing,is family,and of course me.He was my best friend i could tell him anything no matter what from my past,present how i was feeling anything.He loved me for who i was.We i stopped eating for 3yrs got to 97 pound he stayed beside me,when my father died he was there,when I was drinking he was there.He never judge me,talked down to me always stayed strong for me he was my best friend,i miss him.He was a strong a level headed person,he was also a good speller.He would think outside the box,he was not a selfish man.They is one thing for sure Lynn never went in my purse and i never went in his wallet.He was that way.This site could go on,and on about him.I love him and miss him.He had had a battle with lung cancer but he had copd and his lungs could not take it no more just 4weeks earlier he had been on the vent 2 times,so when I got the call at 1:05 in the morning when the alumbus took him i said i would wait until the morning to go because we had just went though this twice in a couple months were he had to go to rehab and everything,well i went to my sons house shawn and told him came back called the hospital and the Dr got on the phone and said your husband has been with out oxgen for about 15 mintues and CPR has been down but dont look go he was on no medicine and he was on a Vent and he was not bucking it I knew something was wrong.After 24hrs waiting for test and Dr sleeping in my Van,no bath and they decided well what time the Death Watch sucks and that my 2 sons had to decide when to take him off, who made us God to do that?And you seat and watch this man suffer for 2hrs before he let go,and what could i say are do.I love you Lynn i dont have no one to talk to,cry,laugh with.Lynn was buried at Sea which that is what he wanted he Loved the sea It will take a yr before everything for him is completed but i want him to rest now.

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Jun 05, 2011
So Much in Common
by: TrishJ

I can't believe how similar our stories are. I lost my husband on December 3, 2010. It was just 6 months a few days ago. My husband also loved boxing ~ he was in the Navy on the USS Kearsarge during the Viet Nam era. He too loved being on the water. He purchased a 32 foot cabin cruiser 8 years ago. He became very ill 5 years ago so the about didn't see much water time.
Joe died while waiting for a heart transplant. I know what you mean about the numerous emergencies. I spent more time in the ER and hospital rooms in the last year of his life. I don't begrudge him one minute of all the time and energy we spent trying to save him.
It's almost surreal being here without him. We were married for 37 1/2 years. Not all wedded bliss but he was the father of my children, my husband, my friend. I miss him so much.
It's been very hard for me the last 6 months. Not only did I lose my husband but we had to sell our home also due to the bad economy and the medical bills. I've had to rebuild my life completely. I think I'm making progress.
Our husbands loved us and would want us to be happy. It's hard to think about happiness without them isn't it?
We have a saying on this web site ~ one breath, one step at a time. You really can't think past today right now. I stopped making plans to far in advance because I have no idea what kind of day I will be having. The depression seems to creep in when I least expect it.
Keep the faith. God really is good. Hugs and peace to you.

Jun 05, 2011
So sorry for your loss
by: Anonymous

Brenda, I am so sorry for your loss. Your husband sounds like a wonderful man and you are so blessed to have had 32 years with him. He really stood by you through thick and thin and I can only imagine what you must be feeling like right now.

I lost my darling sister-in-law in November. She was my best friend and felt like a real sister, not just a sister-in-law. I know what it feels like to feel lonely and alone. I guess that's part of the grieving process. I pray you will get through it all and find the strength to go on. You sound like someone who has conquered many tough things already.

Sending you a hug from my part of the world.

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