Lysandra Ava Laine, Nov. 15-Nov 19, 2008

by Larissa Laine
(Tucson, AZ, USA)

I will always love you Lysandra

I will always love you Lysandra

Lysandra, you gave me the best three and a half days of my life, plus the 9 months I had to bond with you during pregnancy. I have faith that we'll get to pick up right where we left off, and you will get that pony I promised you. You made me a better person and the opportunity, though brief, to be a loving mom.

Lysandra passed away from SIDS when she was three and a half days old. A healthy vibrant baby who simply didn't wake up. It's a cruel reality to do everything you can for your child and take all preventative measures, and nothing could stop it.

I'm gradually focusing on what I had not on what I don't. This is the time that faith is tested and my heart and arms ache. Losing a child has been the cruelest part of my life so far.

Someday, my love, you'll be in my arms again and for now I'll hold onto our dear memories, the love you were surrounded by. Your Grandma, myself and numerous others loved you dearly.

I love you my Lysandra.

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Oct 20, 2012
by: Anonymous

My name is Lysandra and i'm born in nov. 9. and it is really sad to read stories about little Lysandras and what they had to go through. Lysandra used to be the name of a sparta girl and that's why i think every girl named Lysandra is a fighter and i'm sure,she did her battle too,but she was just too little to win this one. I am truely sorry for your lost.

I know it was a long time ago,but i just needed to say that.

Sep 17, 2011
I keep you in my prayers
by: Ash

Hi Larissa,

It's been a very long time. I heard about your loss a while back but had no way of contacting you. Oddly enough i found this page through a google search of your name in trying to find you on facebook. I live in Canada now, I got moved here in Nov 2008.

I just want you to know that I have kept you in my prayers over the last couple of years, especially in this regard. Knowing what a great mom you must be and unable to fathom what you must have been and continue to be going through, I pray that you be given all the support you need and then a whole lot more on top of it. You are still a mom. That began the day she started growing inside you and will never change. From what I know of you, I know you are an amazing mother and though she is asleep now, (Lysandra is a beautiful unique name by the way) she is waiting to wake up to be held and snuggled by you again and that time is coming faster than any of us realize.

I can't wait until we can experience real life and these things will never happen to anyone again and what is temporarily lost will be restored better than ever.

Hang in there. Keep your faith strong. You are an amazing, talented woman with a big heart and you deserve good things. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I knew the words to help and to make things better but my words fail me in times like these. All I can say is, if you ever need to get away, or have a change of scenery, you are always welcome at our house. :)

Maybe you can help me teach Jude to paint. He is good with watercolor, surprisingly good, but oils frustrate him and he ends up sketching robots most of the time.

I wish you all the best in the world. I wish you love, and courage, and faith and strength. And I will keep praying for you.

Much Christian Love,


Mar 25, 2009
To Sheila
by: Anonymous

Dear Sheila:
Thank you so much for your words of kindness. I'm so sorry to hear about all the loss you have endured. It's hard work to keep going. Thank you for your words of faith and encouragement.

Mar 04, 2009
by: Sheila Joyce Gibbs

Dearest Larissa:

My apologies for not replying sooner, but as a barren widow, trying to somehow find the correct words of comfort has been difficult.

All I know is that this has got to be one of the most insurmountable griefs a women could bear! Sorrow is truly the most horrendous path to find oneself on ever.

Losing my Dad, Mom, then my hubby/best-friend, has been such a difficult journey that like yourself, I never expected to tread. The only thing that's kept me going has been my faith in our Lord & Saviour!

Please feel free to write me....on any subject, (while despair seems to be my fortitude).

God Bless and keep you in His loving arms. Remember Larissa, He will never leave nor forsake you.

Luv Sheila

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