Marty Loflin gone from me for 2 years

by Becky Loflin
(Bear Creek, NC, USA)

October 3, 1975 - January 19, 2010
My beautiful, 34 year old son Marty died on January 19, 2010 at First Health of the Carolinas in Pinehurst, NC. He walked into that facility healthy and left 14 days later in a body bag. He had been told by a cardiovascular surgeon there that he desperately needed an aortic valve replacement. He couldn't understand why he had no symptoms, but because of their insisting that he was in danger, he agreed to the procedure. After performing the procedure Marty suffered a stroke.He stayed in a coma until his death Jan. 19th 2010. A nurse at the facility said I would never have peace with how my son died. She is right, I will never. Marty is a wonderful son. He was a compassionate caring, and peaceful person who loved to do things to make others feel better. He loved all sports, especially UNC basketball and football. Marty enjoyed skiing and spending time at Ocean Isle Beach, NC. I miss him so much my heart aches with pain. Each day without him is agony and suffering. I will spend all the time I have doing things to honor Marty and holding accountable those who cause harm and pain to others. I Love Marty and miss him every second of every day.

Becky Loflin
Marty Loflin's Mama

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Oct 13, 2012
 MARTY LOFLIN'S 37TH BIRTHDAY
by: Anonymous

This week was my son Marty's birthday. He would have been 37 years old. He should be here enjoying his life. I miss him so much!! Today it has been unbearable and I have spent the day crying. This should not have happened. My son Marty should be here with me, his daddy and brother. Marty loved Carolina football and he and his brother always went to the games. His brother did not get tickets this year. He said it was too hard to go without Marty. I wonder if the cardiovascular surgeon ever thinks about the surgery he performed that was fatal for my son Marty, or what pain and agony he caused for Marty's family for the remainder of our lives. People who call themselves dr's should be held accountable for the mistakes they make, instead of just moving on to start again. My life is horrible each and every minute of every day. I will grieve for my son as long as I live. I Love Marty and wish I could say Happy Birthday to him.
Becky Loflin
Marty's Mama
Feb 04, 2012
 Honoring Marty
by: Anonymous

Carolyn, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I know that horrible pain that feels so heavy on your chest and that your legs will not hold you up to take the next step. It has been two years that Marty has been gone, but the pain is still unbearable. I keep doing things to honor Marty and that has helped me alot. We did a scholarship at his high school, we did Adopt A Highway in his honor, we have put memorial benches in places he loved. Each year at Xmas I make calendars with his picture on it and send out to friends and family. I always worry that people will forget him. I want to make sure no one ever forgets him so I continue to do these things. At every holiday I do something in his honor even if it is just something small. On his birthday one year I gave children a coupon for ice cream to celebrate Marty's birthday since he was not here to celebrate. These are some of the things I have been doing to cope these last two years, but more than anything I want to work to help people understand that dr's make mistakes and they are not held accountable. They can walk away and start practicing somewhere else. This is so wrong. The public needs to be educated on medical errors. Many people are injured or killed in hospitals each year. I honor my son Marty by working on making people aware of the tragedies so many people face because of medical mistakes that could be preventable. I wish that no one will ever have to experience this kind of pain and suffering. Carolyn I wish you peace and comfort. I will be thinking of you as you face these difficult days with out your son.
Lots of hugs!
Becky Loflin
Marty's Mama
Feb 04, 2012
 Thanks for your story
by: Carolyn

My beautiful son Brian died November 11, 2011, on veterans day. He was a veteran of Afghanistan. He was there in 2003. He was at work that morning and started feeling pressure in his chest. He had a massive heart attack at age 33 years of age. He and his wife and 2 daughters were going to spend the week-end with me. He didn't make it. There is a disabling stab of pain where my heart as, I write. How do you get past the horrible pain of loss? Those of you with more than a few months after your loss, how do you do it...
Feb 03, 2012
 Thanks for your story
by: Carolyn

My beautiful son Brian died November 11, 2011, on veterans day. He was a veteran of Afghanistan. He was there in 2003. He was at work that morning and started feeling pressure in his chest. He had a massive heart attack at age 33 years of age. He and his wife and 2 daughters were going to spend the week-end with me. He didn't make it. There is a disabling stab of pain where my heart as, I write. How do you get past the horrible pain of loss? Those of you with more than a few months after your loss, how do you do it...
Jan 19, 2012
 I am so Sorry
by: carol,seans mom

Becky, I am so sorry about your son. How awful. I too lost my son. Sean was only twenty four and died of what appears to be a blot clot that sat on his heart. 24 years old and he had suffered three massive heart attacks before he died. I feel your pain but can't imagine your circumstances. Life is definitely cruel and unfair some times. One day we have these beautiful men in our world in then they are just gone. I really cant believe it still. Sean died on November 15,2011. You have been strong for a year,you must be exhausted. My thoughts are with you and all us other moms that dont get to see our sons grow in to the fine men they should of.
Jan 19, 2012
 Thank you for sharing about Marty
by: Toni

I know that nothing anyone can see is going to help - but I am very sorry. I know so well this kind of grief and it is very very painful.

Bless you as you mourn your beautiful son, Becky.

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