by Mary
(East Peoria Illinois USA)

My sister Laura was 45 years old; her birthday is May 17th. On December 11th this year, just 2 weeks ago, she had a massive heart attack that killed her instantly. When she fell over, she knocked over a candle and her house burnt down, I got the call first that it was on fire, I called my mom then dad then other sister to get up there. I arrived right after the fire engines, theydrove by me and I watched them in slow motion and thought "Oh my god I hope they're not going to Lauras", and about 5 minutes later I got the call from her neighbor and they were at Lauras.

We did not have a body to identify, at first they could not tell if it was a man or woman she was burnt so bad, my daughter and myself went to the police station saturday the 12th and identified her jewelry, my daughter is 22.

I still can not believe she is gone, she had twin boys who are 13, and now they have to go live with their dad and we don't know how that is going to work as they were fighting in court for custody. Now she is gone so we just don't know what is going to happen. My parents go to a lawyer Tuesday to see if they can have some kind of grandparents rights.

Laura was my best friend in the whole world and I miss her every minute, I have an 8 year old son and my daughter and my husband but I am so alone. Please help me out. Please this is Christmas and it is so horrible...

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Feb 06, 2010
Love and Peace
by: Anonymous

Dear Mary,
I am so sorry for your loss. I also lost my sister a year and and half ago. I feel so sorry that you not only have this grief of losing someone so dear to you, but also the trauma of the circumstances is great. It's like a double dose for you.

It is going to take some time and patience for you to heal. Even when you can not seem to find it with others, find it in yourself, be kind and gentle with your own broken heart.

Take comfort and find strength in the loving memories and sisterly bond you both shared. Know that even though she is gone and you remain, that blessing of love inside you will never die...
I wish you much love and peace.

Dec 29, 2009
by: Anonymous

Why do people keep saying it gets easier !!! It does not get easier, we just accept that we must go on, we must spend the days pretending we are okay. We learn to deal with the heartache and pain, it does not dissappear and we just get over it ! My condolences for the loss of your sister x

Dec 26, 2009
Holidays and grief
by: Anonymous

So sorry for the loss of your best friend and sister. Your pain is very new and you are still in shock. I am not going to tell you it gets easier, that takes much time. The pain and heartache is great. Just rely on your family and a faith (even if you are mad at God for allowing this to happen)

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