May is a hard month


I wanted to write to others who have sent on loved ones recently.May is a hard month for me.Mother's Day and my mom died 3yrs ago in June.My baby sister died in Nov. 2001 and her son came to my house to tell me Happy Mothers Day.We talked about his mother and remembered many things about her. My anniversary,the 22nd and my husband of 33 yrs died on May 29th,2011.My friend of 28yrs died May 29,2010.My mother-in-law died May 23rd 1977,a yr before I married my soul mate.I'm sorry I couldn't respond to those whose mothers are gone from us but I spent a lot of time crying this week and the sad days are not gone yet.I will continue to try to go on and remember them in good ways.I pray for all of you and me to be able to get past the really hard days and get on to the part that is a little easier.We will never forget but it will get easier.My faith in GOD tells me I will see them again.Take care of yourselves and may GOD send you strength and peace.

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May 25, 2013
May is a hard month
by: Doreen U.K.

Silver Thank You for your update of where you are now. I appreciate this as it encourages us with HOPE that YES! in time we can move forward as and when we need to. Not perhaps finding a new mate. It is too early in one's loss to process this.
I am so happy for you being able to go through your anniversaries and making this how you want it to be by doing something different that will take the focus off the lonliness you are now facing. It is up to us in time to make subtle changes in our lives that makes life more bearable from our loss of our mate. If you have made up your mind that you will start to do things now. It means the time is right for you and you will start to do this. First few months I sat on the couch with a blanket and the TV and this helped me. I had great comfort from the God Channel and I wrote on this site and this has been very healing. I then was able to motivate myself most days to take 2 jobs a day. I knew when to stop. I have had a break and I know when I will start again. It makes me feel better when I am doing some work or project. But I do still have the memories come back and make me cry more. But it is just the way grief is happening for me. I accept this. I am sure you will make it to the nursing home where you worked and this will be the start of you making changes to your life for the best. It is when one is meeting other people and making a difference in someone's life that we become different people and start to heal in a way that pushes us forward. I did voluntary work for years and so I know how it feels to be giving out to others and how fulfilling this is. Please write back with another update. May life get better for you each day. Best wishes and May God Bless You in your days ahead and give you Peace and fulfilment.

May 24, 2013
may is a hard month
by: silver

Hello everyone.Well,I have made it through all of my "anniversaries" except one:May 29-next week.It's the day my friend and soul mate died.It will be the 2 yr mark for his death.One of my sons told me that if I meet someone that will make me happy to go for it.I know he means well but I feel I am still married to my love.I still miss him so much.I went out for our anniversary(22nd)so I wouldn't sit at home and cry.It helped then I cried the 23rd off and on all day.I don't cry every day so I guess it is getting easier.I am beginning to feel like I need to go out and do things.I think after this month is over,I will go to the nursing home where I used to work and visit.I hope I can do this.May GOD send you peace and support. I certainly know how much we need it.Love and prayers to all of you.

May 15, 2013
may is a hard month
by: silver

thank you disabled daughter.My mother was always the strong one.She was a military wife moving about every 3 yrs.,sometimes overseas.She raised six kids through all this.She took care of my father when he got cancer,esp towards the end when he couldn't move around much.She stayed almost every minute with him in the hospital the last two weeks of his life.Then she sat down at home and died 7 months later.While I was dealing with that 11 months later my husband died.I am almost 64 and stiff w/arthritis so I feel strongly for you.I thank GOD for every day that I can still take care of myself.I pray for you and others like us.May GOD send you strength and peace.It does get easier I have found.Your love will never go away and that is the greatest blessing of all.

May 15, 2013
May is a hard month
by: Doreen U.K.

What a SPECIAL LADY you are to send best wishes to all who have lost a loved one. May is a hard month for me. May 5th 2012 I lost my husband of 44yrs. to lung cancer caused by working with a deadly substance ASBESTOS that no one knew was a danger to the environment and workplace. I have just completed one year of widowhood. The lonliness is the worst part of grief to overcome. My mother died 10yrs. ago on March 20th March 24th would have been our 45th Wedding Anniversary. Now I have a new anniversary to remember of the death of my Beloved Husband. I now have a father dying slowly. Death is all around us and will keep assaulting us. But as you say You have a Faith in God that carries you through. ME TOO!. I along with you Echo the same sentiments of seeing our loved one's again. This is not wishful thinking. It is by Promise that God made. I know that we will all overcome our grief one day at a time and will Heal sufficiently to allow us to go on each day till God calls us also. May God be with you and Bless you daily.

May 15, 2013
It is my anniversaries too
by: disabled daughter

Dear friend, I wept when I read your post. It is more than empathy I feel, as I return to an empty house, and can never get use to the loneliness.

I am coming up to the first anniversary of so much heartache, including the passing of my mum.As her only daughter and best friend it is and will always be raw.

It is so comforting to feel we will be with them again - as life is never the same without those we cherish.

I am disabled, my mum was the only individual who gave me the confidence to confront lifes prejudices.

With kind wishes.

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