Memorial Day (weekend) 2010

by Hope

Memorial Day is to honor all those that fought for our freedom. Even the freedom to have that cookout with friends and family.

My husband fought in the Gulf war yet I cannot get his ashes buried in a veterans memorial cemetery. He worked most memorial days in the past because he was a "working man" with little benefits or paid holidays.

As this holiday passes and soon his birthday 06/04/64, Fathers Day, My birthday, and the 4th of July I try to keep my chin up, it will have been 6 months 2 days after his birthday. I try to stay strong but it is hard to keep up a celebratory face when you know he's not here to celebrate. Trimming bushes yesterday was his job along with all the other yard work. In the yard or in the garage brings on that uncomfortable tightness in my chest that signifies the lonesomeness I feel without him.

I know somehow he is up there watching over my son and I. I miss him and will evermore....HH

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May 31, 2010
I know, I know so well
by: Anonymous


It has been six months , going on seven since I lost my husband. This past month I had to go through our wedding anniversary without him. It was very hard. After long thought I decided to carry on a normal day (it was a work day). I prayed long and hard to be given the strength to get through the day.

Only the other widow I know at work knew it was my anniversary. She very quietly said to me "Happy Anniversary" and gave me a hug. That small recognition and the knowledge that she understood gave me the fortitude to get through that day, and for me to focus on the things Bear and I had together, the good times, the fun, the love, the laughter, the adventures together.

This helped me when the waves of sadness came over me.

I hope you have such a friend, and you know you always have us here.

Hang on, hang on!

May 30, 2010
thoughts are with you
by: grieving wife

My thoughts are with you and your son, keep strong on these difficult dates, I too believe they are with us, but also feel your emptiness, as I too lost my husband. I think broken hearts allow us to see life differently and understand the value of each minute, understand the importance of what needs to be said, and what is truly important.

I believe that people who have shared a sudden loss firsthand can offer a level of understanding, compassion and hope to one another.

Keep your chin up high, and know others care.

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