Okay, so what did you do with their clothes?
Well, you probably gave the nicest garments to friends and family, and that's a good thing. But what about the rest of their clothing? It will help de-clutter your life and lighten your grief a little bit if you eventually clean out your loved one's closet, and dispose of their clothes, shoes, ties or purses and other personal items.
No, we are not telling you to get rid of family photos, special comfort items, treasures and keepsakes from your lost one. Just one day, when you feel ready, you will have to do some spring cleaning.
And we know exactly what you should do with some of the fabrics... make a memorial quilt! (Or have one made for you).
One family who lost their 16-year-old son Bobby to a sudden cardiac death, used quilt making as a ritual for working through their grief. Five quilts were made, one for each member of the family, each of Bobby's younger siblings, and each parent. One of Bobby's shirt pockets was sewn onto each quilt, and the oldest child remarked that the pocket looked as if it was actually on Bobby's chest.
As part of their griefwork, each night the children write a private note to Bobby and tuck it into his pocket. In this way, the kids share their day with their lost brother. The grieving parents also use the quilts in their own way. Bobby's mother wraps herself in her quilt to be close to her son, and his father hung his quilt at work in his office.
Just the gathering of women (and men!) for quilt making can provide
much-needed emotional and social support in your time of bereavement. We realize
people are just not cut out for a project like this. So we present below several
different ways you can go with your memorial quilt project.
If you lost your baby, consider making a soft cuddly quilt from his or her baby clothes. For adults, soft comforting memorial quilts can be made from any clothing large enough to cut squares from.
the story of your loved one's life in a unique way: create a quilt using his
T-shirt collection! . Make your own or have one constructed for you.
We heard about a new, super-easy way to make quilts we wanted to tell you about it. Instead of wrestling with a quilting frame or holding a hot heavy quilt in your lap for hours, you can make one square at a time,,, in 10 minutes!
Read more about it:
Like speed cutting, the ''10-minute'' technique is revolutionizing patchwork. Anyone can sew large blocks in just 10 minutes. Sewers who previously avoided quilting because it just takes too much time are getting involved. Fast and fabulous... with flair! That's what you get when you turn large blocks into speedy quilts using this handy ''10-minute'' technique. You can really make a 19" block in less than 10 minutes.
We know of a group of craftsmen and women in the mountains of Oregon who produce gorgeous custom memorial quilts from your loved ones clothing... Timeless Thread Design.
There are several quilt making companies out there, so what's different about Timeless Thread Design? They do their work slowly, carefully... making heirloom custom memory quilts... one at a time. Send them any of the following items, and they create a unique quilt for you with its own character and feel:
One customer said that being wrapped in their quilt was like being held in
the arms of their lost loved one. This can help ease your pain and provide
needed comfort and support. For a custom, one-of-a-kind heirloom-quality quilt,
contact Geneva Ruth at her website for a quote today.
Levis & Hankies Quilt
"Truly magnificent- no words to even describe the healing this is providing my family" ~Mona P from Illinois
Visit Timeless Thread Design below and make sure to ask for Recover-From-Grief's 5% discount.
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code: RFG 5%
"Hugs From Heaven" is another group of memorial quiltmakers who craft beautiful heirloom quilts from your loved one's old clothing. Read their story and order your own keepsake here: www.hugs-from-heaven.com/
Sherri Lynn Wood is a craftsman and theologian who believes that making a "Passage Quilt" is a helpful hands-on experience that mirrors and reflects the interior process of bereavement and transition. She gives workshops in California and North Carolina on memorial quilt-making.
Read more about her interesting work here:
"A quilt will warm your body and comfort your soul."