Mike, my true love is gone

by Cathy
(Bryson City, NC)

I lost my beloved just 17 days ago. He was diagnosed with lung cancer 18 months ago. We have been together (almost) 4 years and felt so lucky to have found one another. Being in middle-age (he 62 and me 52) and finally finding true love was such a surprise and we truly appreciated every moment together. Now, I am numb one minute and crying the next. I know that I will have to find a new way to live, but right now, it just doesn't seem possible. Friends who have lost their mate tell me to just give myself time, and put one foot in front of another. I am trying, but I hurt so much. And now, while people are celebrating and enjoying their families and anticipating the new year, I feel like pulling the covers over my head. Months before Mike died, he made me promise to continue to find joy in each day and live fully. I am not sure that it is possible without him.
Peace be with us all....

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Jan 16, 2013
Mike - My Soul Mate
by: Nell

I lost my beloved Mike one month ago to Lung Cancer. He was sick for only six months. We were married 15 years and have three lovely children. I am trying to stay strong and keep going for my kids, but some days all I want to do is stay in bed and sleep. I know Mike would want me to carry on and take care of the kids. I am so lonely for his voice and his presence that my heart actually feels like it willl break and the pain is almost physical. i know time will heal but rught now it seems a long way away.

Jan 01, 2013
True love gone
by: Alassia

You are still in shock. I met my husband when I was 42 and finding true love and a soul-mate at that stage in our lives was a surprise to us, too. I completely understand that you feel numb. And then emotions erupt.

We were together for 15 years. There could never have been enough time!

Don’t try to fit in with what your, well-meaning, friends say. They, as you know, are trying to help from a perspective of not understanding. It’s great that they are there for you – but don’t feel you have to conform to the ‘norm’, whatever they may want that to be.

I feel exactly as you do about people celebrating and anticipating the New Year. I have no part to play in that any more.
It is hard for those of us who have been left behind.

I hope we can all find some kind of peace.

Dec 31, 2012
Mike, my true love is gone
by: cassie

i am so sorry for the loss of your love. i to lost my true love this year, he was seventeen and i was sixteen. i miss him everyday and cant go a day without seeing him in my mind. i cant say the pain will go away quickly but just know that you will see hime one day and you will be together again. people have put kind and loving post on the story i shared. just keep hope, and have faith. pray to god and never lose faith

Dec 30, 2012
Mike, my true love is gone
by: Doreen U.K.

Cathy I am so sorry for the loss of your husband to lung cancer. I lost my husband of 44yrs.mariage 8 months ago to Lung Cancer caused by working with Asbestos. MESOTHELIOMA. incurable, inoperable, aggressive rare cancer. I nursed him for 3yrs.39days. He died a very slow painful death. He was 65yrs. when he died. 16 days before his 66th birthday. He worked hard often 6 and 7 days a week for the last 47yrs. and when he was due to retire he died. I was denied time with my husband due to his long, tedious working life. Now he was denied time for himself and time for US. I am not looking forward to LIFE WITH limits. At my age I don't want another man in my Life. Only Companionship with another lonely person whether male or female. I don't relish the time ahead on my own. I hate being LONELY. God knows all about this LONLINESS. It was God who Created woman for Man so this LONLINESS is a different kind that no one else can fill. I know people will try to give you advice about how to move on in life. But you have to be True to yourself. If your grief is too painful then try grief counselling. You will be amazed at how quickly you are able to put things into some perspective and you will move forward much quicker. You will still have to go through the stages of grief and for each of us this is different. There is no time scale. Healing is slow. It is so sad to lose your true love when you met so late in life with Hope of spending the rest of your lives together. It is still good to find happiness at any time of life. I am so happy that you got to know Love and Happiness. I hope that you will find life better in the days ahead and that you will be well supported in your grief.

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