Miss Minx - the Mistress of our Home

by Sherrie
(Oregon)

Minx was adopted from the "pound" in the Fall of 1994 by our youngest daughter. At the time our daughter had just started her junior year of college, lived in college housing and pets were NOT allowed. In January of 1995 our daughter needed her wisdom teeth pulled and needed to come home ... uh oh ... she had to explain this pet to her father and I. I told her that if she was fined it would be her responsibility to pay the fine. After some thought on her part she asked if Minx could live with us during the school year. Obviously the answer was YES. This little girl literally stole my and my husband's heart. Upon graduating from college our daughter decided to move to Minnesota...it was quite easy for me to say "You can't take Minx!" And my husband supported me in this decision. This sweet lady lived as part of our family until Sunday, January 6, 2013. Of course, she's still part of our family, but now in heart and memories.

The loss and pain I feel is indescribable! I've lost family members in the past. People understand that loss. Not everyone understands the loss of your fur baby. For me this pain has been as deep and devastating as any I've ever felt! Minx was 18 1/2 years old when she went to heaven...oh how I wish I could have her for another 18+ years.

I will continue Minx' story later...need to take a break.

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Sep 14, 2013
Missing my little girl
by: Sherrie

September 14, 2013 - still missing you my little Sweetpea!

Mar 29, 2013
My little girl
by: Sherrie

I miss you so very, very much Minx. Some days are better than others but I miss you curling up on my legs, insisting on being petted, cuddling while I read. You were so spoiled and I wouldn't have it any other way! Will always love you my little fur baby!

Feb 07, 2013
My Princess
by: Sherrie

It's been over 4 weeks since Minx went to the Rainbow Bridge. I miss her so very, very much. The tears continue to flow and that's okay, they don't have to stop.

Jan 12, 2013
Miss Minx - the Mistress of our Home
by: Doreen U.K.

Sherrie I am sorry for your loss of Miss Minx. Pets have such a beauty and warmth about them that is unexplainable. Only one who has loved and cared for a pet will understand the dreadful pain of loss when we lose them.
My daughter brought home 2 cockatiels which became 11. We put 2 lovebirds in the cage. This was a mistake. The lovebirds dominated the cage and bullied 11 Cockatiels. It was fun watching them peek their heads through the nesting box playing games. The lovebirds became vicious towards the cockatiels and so they had to be separated. We put them in separate cages in my daughter's bedroom. Cockatiel called Blondie became unwell and was put in isolation. One Sunday my daughter had gone out. I looked in on the bird to find that she had died. I screamed and cried and broke my heart and this was my first experience of death. I couldn't bear this ache inside. Then the lovebird called Ben was staggering around his cage. He couldn't climb the bars. He had an eye infection and went blind. My heart was breaking watching him struggle. I reached into the cage and cupped him in my hands and started talking to him and told him how much he was loved. He died in my cupped hands and my heart broke into a thousand pieces. I thought I would never recover from this loss. My husband made a box for each bird. He was a carpenter. I gave the 2 birds a good burial. The one lovebird left was sent to another home and this also broke my heart. She became very lonely. 3 cockatiels flew out of the cage accidentally in the coldest of weathers and probably died. the 8 left were healthy and I gave them to a bird rescue mission where they could have a better quality of life in an outdoor aviary. PET PAIN is REAL. It hurts every bit as much as a person, but somehow different. The relationship between a pet and a person I found Unique. SPECIAL. My heart is broken forever over the loss of my birds and the ones I gave away for a better life.
I lost my husband of 44yrs. to cancer 8 months ago and no more boxes can be made for birds that die so I don't keep birds for now. I care for them in the garden. There are no short cuts to grief. But time does Heal all wounds. May you be comforted and supported in your loss.

Jan 12, 2013
What a beautiful relationship......
by: Sandy

Dear Sherrie,
Read you blog about Minx's demise and felt very sad.You really had a beautiful relation with Minx over the years and she made yours and your family's life meaningful. It is just impossible to accept ones pet's death. You have truly mentioned that society do understand our mourning for a human's death bur seldom understand our pain on losing our fur babies.God sends these pets to us with some purpose.May the Lord give you strength to bear its loss.It is going to be an year on March 21st when I lost my Pet kitty Poochie ( read in this blog - Like a flash of Lightning she came...) and yet to come to terms with her death. She was only for 4 months with me and died a very painful death which I shudder to think yet does not go off from my mind. Your Minx must be playing in Rainbow Bridge with my Poochie and others. Think of the good times you spent with Minx and take care.

Jan 11, 2013
Kind Words
by: Sherrie

Thank you Debbie for sharing your grief with me - I am deeply touched. I also believe that we will meet our loved ones in heaven. As your Mum did with Bliss, Minx was cremated and her ashes will be with me forever and always. God Bless You! and thank you again, your kind words were a great help.

Jan 09, 2013
You are not alone
by: Debbie (England)

My parents lost their 'third child' 'Bliss' 10 years ago. She died peacfully in her sleep whilst lying at their feet when they were watching tv the day after Christmas. She was the apple of their eye. An intellegent, tall, elegant Standard Poodle who cut such a dash walking out with my equally elegant mother. What a pair they were! At the time I didn't understand their enormous grief. I do now. My darling mum died last March - the pain was/is indescribable. I knew immediately what they had been going through and how dismissive I must have been of their pain. Also I now have a dog, Teddy, and know that one day I am going to have to go through this terrible trauma again. When my darling mum died she was burried with Bliss' ashes clasped to her heart so they could rise into heaven together where they both belonged. I hope that one day you and I will be able to look back fondly at those we have loved whether animal or human and be able to smile at their antics and not merely feel this terrible pain. I am assured we'll get there. I am 9 months ahead of you. I have had a lot of help to get this far. I hope you have help too and I hope your little bundle of fur has been met by my mum and Bliss in Heaven where she will be loved and looked after until you get there!

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