Miss you Dad today and always

by Debra Ann Hamilton
(Coopersburg Pa)

My dad became seriously ill on Jan 3 21013. He ended up in ICU on a ventilator for 7 days,,the hospital was terrible I had to watch everything they did..finally he seemed to be over the hump..on his 34th day in the hospital he was moved to an LTAC(long term acute care)He was in this hospital for 37 more days..I went to visit him everyday even though it was 40 mins.away. I could not bare the thought of him being alone.So the big day came..he was moved to a nursing facility 5 mins from my house.I thanked God everyday for giving me more time with my dad. My son was getting married on April 20th..I was very busy that week but I still found the time to visit..That Thursday he didnt seem himself..he wouldn't eat..he had a cough..Friday he went downhill..he was running a fever and having difficulty breathing. I begged him to go back to the hospital..he would not GO..Saturday morning before the wedding I went in to see him..hoping for the best..he was worse..I again begged him to please go to the hospital or he was going to die..his reply, "I am not going to die go to the wedding" I looked him in the eye..told him this was goodbye..he was the best Dad and I loved him with my whole heart. I watched my son getting married..but kept checking my phone..At 2 pm as my husband and I walked to the back of the church the doors blew open. 30 mins later I got the call he had past at 2:20. When I got the death certificate a few days the doctor had filled in his time of death as 2 pm. I believe he had made it to the church. I miss him so bad and I feel so guilty that I had left him alone to go to the wedding. He was the most self sacrifice person I know.

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May 13, 2013
Miss you Dad today and always
by: Doreen U.K.

Debra my sincere apologies for my last sentence where I said you lost your husband and not your dad. This was my mistake. I often write replies late at night when falling asleep at the computer. I was the one who lost a husband of 44yrs. Once again my sincere apologies. Doreen.

May 12, 2013
Miss you Dad today and always
by: Doreen U.K.

Debra Anne I am sorry for your loss of your dad in such difficult circumstances. What a difficult time this was for you and your family. You couldn't have enjoyed your son's wedding with Peace of mind wondering at the same time what was going on with your father. What rotten timing. Your father was ill for some time and it wouldn't have made any difference for you to be away from your son's wedding. It is such a difficult decision needing to be at both places. Missing your son's wedding would have been a catastrophe because this is such an important event in a families life. So is losing a beloved family member. Losing your son's wedding would have put you in guilt also. There was no easy answer here and you will have to forgive yourself for the decision you made. Remember you made a decision for the right reason. Your father told you to go to the wedding he was not going to die. You therefore had his blessing. I hope you are able to forgive yourself. You had a tough decision to make and you have lost your husband which is such a painful loss in any daughter's life. May God comfort you.

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