Missing my Mom
My mom recently passed away very unexpectedly. I was not home when it occurred and my sister found her when she got home from work, but she was already gone and looked like it had occurred several hours earlier ( why wasn't i there??, why did i go to work that day??...i woke up late that day and should have just stayed home. I could have saved her or at least said my final good byes).
She had been diagnosed with breast cancer 1 month before, however it had not spread and was only localized to the breast, so I do not think it was the cancer which directly caused it, as cancer does not kill this quickly. She did have some high blood pressure when at the doctors offices, but when we measured it had home it was much lower and not too high. It might have just been an extreme fear of doctors and hospitals which caused this. She was placed on blood pressure meds because of it.
She had recently undergone her first round of chemo a few weeks ago, and was feeling better as the chemo effects were wearing off. She had a better appetite and was less tired, etc. The few days before, we even went out to eat at a restaurant where she had a good appetite.
When my sister came home on that horrible day, she said she found her in the hallway next to the bathroom. It looked like she had suddenly urinated all over her pants and had a sudden bowel movement and went to get changed in the bathroom, as we found her pants and underwear on the floor, but she had the time to put on new clean underwear which she was wearing when found. From the footprints on the rugs, it looks like she had wondered/stumbled around for a few minutes before collapsing in the hallway.
I am guessing it was a heart attack or stroke and am not sure which. I was wondering whether anyone else had heard of someone suddenly going in their pants before an event like this?? We opted not to do the autopsy because then they would cut her body open and we did not want that to happen, nor did we think she would want that.So my family are all very confused and devastated, and were hoping anyone could shed some light on what may have happened.